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thank you SO MUCH FOR THIS. I mean it. I am touched and so grateful for this detailled response. I’m going to show this to my husband tonight and come up with a game plan. Before rehoming her I want to be able to sleep at night knowing we tried everything, so thank you <3

Yeah. We have a dog with a high drive for hunting/killing basically anything - rats, birds, rabbits, possums - she tried with a king snake once, but it was too big for her to lift and she couldn’t figure out how to get a good grip on it before I stopped her. But my point is that she absolutely loves it; that is her

Seriously, thanks for this info.

His whole method is based on dominating dogs (generally through intimidation) which is based off of discredited studies of wolf behaviour and is found to be both less effective and more harmful than operant conditioning/positive reinforcement by everybody who has studied it.

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Watch this, and if you don’t see what he’s doing wrong, well, I don’t know what to tell you.

Which is why dogs in rescue with high prey drives are adopted into homes without other small animals! Some dogs have high prey drives and that’s ok. It’s in their nature. Punishing a dog because of this is not ok. I really hate Cesar Millan.

Argh, dogs in Jamaica are often roaming at night and kill people’s goats. Then folks try poisoning the dogs. It is a miserable cycle.

Seriously! My dogs gleefully “kill” every new toy they have. They have also killed the occasional real-life vole and rat (not a fun experience for us, but I am certain they enjoyed it).

Not to mention, when the pigs were loose and wandering around, Simon was fine with them. He didn’t go after the pig until one of Cesar’s “helpers” restrained the pig, holding it by its back legs, until the pig got excited and started squealing. This was intentionally manufactured, by the creators of a reality

In Sweden there is a warning before his show about some of his methods being illegal here, which really tells me everything I need to know about him and his methods.

“Millan is the host of the Dog Whisperer With Cesar Millan and a hero to dog owners who’ve used his training tips to raise their own pups since 2004.”

The idea that this might be the case (and I’m not doubting that you’re probably correct), is so sad. I’ve known of some people that had abortions and part of what makes it so hard is the judgement, lack of compassion and understanding and general demonization around the process and decision and not being able to share

Would it be wrong to covertly put anti-death penalty bumper stickers on any car I see with these license plates? That’s part of choosing life right?

state-issued plates are government speech, not private speech.

I love this. Unexpectedly, I think I love her too? I’ve never watched her show, I won’t buy her app, but I get THIS. I wish I felt as comfortable and confident in my skin as she seems to. I admire her willingness to be herself, no matter what. Sure, she’s silly and ridiculous, but she’s got some serious hustle and she

Maybe I’ve spent too much time in academia, but yeah, I think sometimes people forget that for people who end up in good situations (not erasing the people who have definitely been hurt either by the church as an institution and by individual people in the church), being a church member can be a source of comfort,

I learned a bunch from your excellent post but will also admit that it gave me the wiggins. Also...the ladies whose braids are inside-out...are they considered to be like rebels or something? Like the inside-out braid is the equivalent of full-sleeve tats? Are they the Badasses of the FLDS? I really want this to be

People, please start believing that health care IS the miracle God sent you.

This so much. The worst are the evangelicals that go on missions in foreign, especially developing, countries. I work in Oaxaca and I’ve seen many groups of young evangelicals out to mission these heathen Catholics and they just are completely ignorant of the utter damage they do to small, indigenous communities. They