Jesus, is this the truth. Several times I’ve had casual flings with men who seemingly couldn’t wrap their minds around the idea that I was not falling in love with them simply because I liked the sex. In their mind they were holding me at arm’s length through my protestations where in reality I didn’t want to hang out…

This boggles my mind:. I’ll screw someone I’m physically into but who I don’t want to spend time with otherwise. What is the point of screwing someone who you’re not physically into and don’t spend time with otherwise? It seems backward to me.

I love when men think they’re inherently more desirable to women when they’re in relationships and their proof is “women suddenly started interacting with me!”

I haven’t been to one outside of my city’s Little Italy that doesn’t just reheat slop, so I’d say it’s correct.

A willingly-obtained tattoo/scar/brand is an expression of control over one’s body, one given by accident or force represents a lack of control over one’s body. It’s awful that you’ve had to go through what you have. Don’t conflate unrelated things.

Trick question, make sure they can drive stick before you date them.

Came here to post this.

This was in the bad old days pre-crash, sub prime credit flowed like water.

You have a very broad, vague definition of promiscuity and I would love to see these “stats” that say people with experience in relationships have less stable relationships later on. Do they report lower levels of happiness or satisfaction with their relationships? Does a successful relationship necessitate that…

The job needs to be done and people need jobs, this is a terrible reason people doing it shouldn’t make $15/hr. If the job needs to be done by people, those people need to be paid a livable wage.

I happily pay cash at small/family owned places but every corporate chain can eat my butt and process my card for a pack of gum cause I’m gettin’ those damn rewards.

I used to work retail pharmacy which is handled exactly like fast food with strict line wait times because corporate was insane. People coming to get their medicine in the drive thru and don’t even start writing the check until I tell them the total were one of my pet hates.

The overdrafts won’t affect your credit score unless they remain unpaid and they attempt to collect like it’s a regular debt, but they do show up in Chexsystems which is the banking version of a credit report. It doesn’t affect other factors in credit, but it can prevent you from opening accounts at other banks.

If you…

My husband and I have autopay on everything that allows it; we use the credit cards for an extra layer of security in case something gets fucked up. The only things that come out of our checking or savings accounts are cash withdrawals, rent, insurance, and auto loan (last two are with USAA and we bank through USAA,…

I was in a very similar situation as you from 18 to my mid-twenties and it suuuucked. By the time I met my husband I had it down to about a grand of consumer spending and around $13k in student loans. My student loans started with Sallie Mae, then got switched to Navient, where they lost the payment history and…

Back in 2007 I had a single low limit card meant for people who’ve just become eligible to get credit, I think it started out as $300, then $500, then the limit was $3k out of nowhere (I was paying it on time and in full for a while and they just kept increasing my available credit). Then I hurt my back in school and…

My point is that you don’t have to leave your family to get hours of exercise in a week. Some people are going to have a harder time getting exercise than others, but nothing you mentioned precludes getting exercise and you don’t have to be superhuman to do it.

You know, I get that people have busy lives but do you want to complain or do you want to find a solution? There’s nothing about being married that precludes you from exercise. Walking or riding a bike with your kids for a half hour after school is a good way to help them unwind and spend time together. If pet care is…

Where is the “selectively out-asshole the asshole” advice?

Octopus is really tasty and I love the live ones (I met one and played with her for a couple hours, she was a fascinating and beautiful animal) but widespread consumption creates a need for commercial fishing which destroys their habitat. There are efforts to create farms but it is monumentally difficult to raise…