Oh wow. I had no idea that when I'm holding a guy's hand in public, I'm being provocative.

It's become so common I'm stuck listening to other people's music almost daily. I can't deal.

You need to grow up. And if you think that breast-feeding is the same as someone exposing himself and masturbating in public, you have problems.

Your discomfort is your problem. You can deal with it or not.

Yeah. I'm not sure if this makes me a bitch or what, but I'm kind of digging the fact that she's really not all that.

So she thinks that if women cared about other women, infidelity would not exist?
Okay, first, that tows the stupid line that women are responsible for men cheating, or that men are just all nice, faithful guys who are helpless against evil vixens with mean, selfish, magnetic vaginas.
Less important, wedding rings come…

Hmm. See, I just date guys I find hot. My friends joke that I like "sexy ugly" types, but I don't know. They look good to me. I wouldn't be with them otherwise. That's why I asked my initial question. Obviously other people see some kind of differential but I don't.
Though unfortunately I've dated a lot of guys who've…

Well, I meant that they usually mean that guys aren't good looking enough, not the other way around. But it's still awful.

Oh gawd, me too. I've just finished episode eight. I thought she was alright in the first couple of episodes, but the past few have made me so angry at her that I can barely watch. She seems to jump between being completely clueless, chipper pedantic teacher's pet, or like she actually thinks she's kind of a badass.…

I know that the majority of men find me "hot", though I'm getting a bit old. I also know that a lot of people think that I choose men who aren't "in my league", looks-wise, but I'm just choosing men I find attractive and not choosing men I don't find attractive. So, I donno.

So then how does one know if he or she is batting out of his or her league? I'm genuinely asking.

How are we supposed to know what league we're in? Is there a list somewhere?

Yeah, honestly, women who aren't conventionally attractive refusing to date any men who aren't Hollywood hot isn't really a thing. I'm sure there are some, but if anything the whole Women Be Shallow deal tends to involve men and money, not looks.

I agree with ALL of this.
The hard-to-get thing is so annoying because it encourages harassment. There are some places where people seem not so much more evolved as simply more direct. Man hits on woman, woman says no, man knows that if she meant yes she would have said yes, man moves on to ask someone else and hope…

I think it's a dick move to blow off plans in general. He should have not made plans with you.
But see, here's my situation: I've been seeing a guy for about two months. At first we were seeing each other a lot, having sleepovers, and all that. Lately, I've felt his interest waning. The last time I talked to him was…

No, that's not why guys don't give up. They don't give up because they're taught that they deserve to get whatever they want and that women have no agency.

Haha. I once went on maybe four or five dates with a guy and I had a feeling he wasn't feeling it though I'd kind of wished he was. He called me up and told me he wasn't into it (oh sorry, what he actually said was "I'm just not yearning for you") and I'm like, Yeah, okay, cool. He's like "What. That's it? That's all…

So in other words, how does one find a balance between being totally upfront and honest (ie. a bitch) and trying to be nice about it (ie. leaving the door open to begging or harassment). I wish I knew. It can be pretty hard reject a man without being insulted or harassed in response, and I've tried every way I can…

There's also the issue that a lot of men do NOT handle rejection well. I've tried many different things and sadly, you never know when you're going to get insulted or threatened in response.
I'll never forget how I once went on a blind date and while I thought the guy was okay, I just wasn't really feeling it. I…

It's great advice for men who see women as people and not a series of holes.
But there are a lot of men who see women as either 1) someone I want to fuck, and therefore not someone I want to be friends with, or 2) someone I don't want to fuck, therefore I don't want to ever have to look at you.