Way more interesting than your typical Tinder interaction! But the thing that bums me out is this: all my female clients who are on Tinder would likely dismiss this guy (I'm assuming he's a guy) as too geeky, even though they're geeky themselves and get frustrated by how boring and uncreative most Tinder messagers…

I'm an online dating coach, and I've been nudging my clients to use quirky photos for years. Nice to see a (smoking hot super brilliant redhead) data geek back me up, haha. http://theheartographer.com/the-mathematic… for more of my take if you wanna geek out about this further!

This cracks me up every year. I'm an online dating coach, and I definitely get a massive spike in business every January/February—it starts with resolutions and leads right up to Valentine's Day.

"Broke bitches swipe left" = actual LOL. Uncomfortably close to some of the terrible online dating messages my clients get, though.

I made the same comment, but it's still pending. High five, my nerdy friend. :)

Erm, I think you mean "vulpine." ^_^

I TOTALLY AGREE about the last experiment being the most interesting. It definitely has elements of icky, but if I can get y'all to focus on the useful parts: stop feeling like a prisoner to match percentage! I've been trying to convince my online dating clients to put less weight on that little number for SO LONG.…

My sense is that the bulk of these tiger pics are from some adventure travel in Thailand. NY may shut down local tigers, but we're still gonna keep seeing exotic animal pics—it kind of makes sense. It's perfect online dating shorthand for "I'm so quirky and fun and free spirited and also I have the disposable income…

Sorry I didn't see this sooner! I screwed around with it some more (and complained about it with friends of all ages/genders/orientations/marital stati). And you know what? The app DOESN'T EVEN RECOGNIZE IF YOU'RE ALREADY MARRIED. So not only is its core data set flawed, but it does a pretty shitty job of parsing the…

Okay, so despite the shitty methodology and the weird judgy "but don't worry" clause and everything, it also fails to detect whether the person who takes the test is in fact already married.

I really love your capsy reaction, haha. This is SUCH UTTER CRAP—bless your friends and all, but haven't some of them made crazy-ass terrible life choices? I mean, I'm sure some of them also consider MY life choices to be terrible... because WE ARE ALL DIFFERENT PEOPLE. Special freakin' snowflakes with different…

There are things you learn, when you're a woman in the game industry, that do not appear in training manuals or HR handbooks: how to grit your teeth and keep your head down and keep moving; how not to be a buzzkill or a squeaky wheel; how to deflect without confronting. You learn the same lessons that women learn…

For a long time, in the early 2000s when I was single, I held the dubious record of being the only woman I knew who had used Craigslist for online dating and had never received a single dick pic. Then one guy sent one and ruined my streak; oh well. :)

I'm an online dating coach, and I have to urge y'all to avoid sounding TOO template-y when you message women. There was a time when that kind of formula worked, but at this point the majority of guys follow a template, so it sound very stale and kind of suspect. You're all outcompeting each other!

This is so cool. Years ago I read an interview with Cameron Diaz, and the way the (male) reporter described her food attitude over their luncheon seemed like she was very down to earth. She was so candid about how her own natural body type just happened to be super popular in Hollywood, and she was so refreshingly…

I only see "short term dating" used by women who are super clear that they specifically want to get out there and get laid in a no strings attached kind of way, like say if they just exited a long sex-starved relationship and want to get to know the whole scene again before they start trying to date more seriously. If…

Can ya blame me? Everyone on here is complaining about how terrible online dating is; that's exactly what I aim to alleviate. :) It really depends on the site and person, but in general, it means DTF. Which is so silly, if you think about it—EVERYONE is looking for short-term dating until they click with the right…

It totally is! http://theheartographer.com for more info; I'm happy to cut you a Jezebel discount too if you mention you found me here. :)

I never did it when I was single and online dating; I only do it now for my work as an online dating coach. (And even then, I don't create fake profiles to study how different markets behave; I only have them to allow me to look over my clients' profiles that are set to private.) I don't think it's wrong, necessarily,…

Dude, so does the myth that men are all willing to have sex with anyone really hot. Not all men fall into that stereotype. And some women do. I'm sick of sexual desire and attraction being listed as a universally and exclusively male trait! (I know that's not exactly what you're saying, but let's avoid these "all men…