No. You can’t.

Evolution is literally my job. It has nothing to do with the bs that Google dude was spewing.

Oh dear. This “love languages” stuff can be fraught and difficult, but it sounds like you have done a lot of the legwork in trying to figure out how to make your relationship better for you and he has not stepped up to contribute.

The idea of this being a last stand for Oakland brought a tear to my eye. Damn, it has been painful to watch the changes in this town.

Yes, actually, I’ve taught for 15 years and seen first hand how horrible the educational inequality is in this country. I don’t need a lecture on how bad school systems in the US are.

I will admit that I am a terrible gift giver and am straight up incompatible with someone who needs thoughtful material gifts as a gesture of love. What concerns me about your story is that is sounds like the level of his thoughtfulness, as demonstrated by the work involved in your gifts, has changed. Has he gone…

The idea that what these people need is an education is infuriating. I refuse to believe that it is a coincidence that the largest Nazi/right-wing rallies in recent memory have been in college towns. These protests are an explicit rejection of education, truthtelling and understanding.

Seconding this. Vetted links to places to donate for medical care/legal defense would be much appreciated!

Wow! I am a total dirtbag, but in my dreams I have nice hair and pretty lips and jackets like this.

I bought cheap white sheets last year and they got pilly and discolored so fast!

I genuinely feel bad for people who are famous now, or famous-adjacent. It sounds so stressful and awful.

I think it’s really useful for men to hear stories about other men freezing up in frightening/unexpected situations. All too often men seem to imagine that they would come out swinging if they or someone they loved were assaulted or in danger. Sometimes people freeze. It’s a legit way to keep yourself safe and I wish…

What?!? Maybe she was “cold” because you’re a fucking creep who assaulted her!

That guy learned an important lesson. Do not fuck with drag queens.

Yeah. I teach self-defense classes and I can’t even count the number of women who are taking the class because they feel shame about not having responded to an assault in the way they thought they should. I always remind them that they did what they needed to do to stay safe and alive, it doesn’t always look the way…

Oh dear. I’m so sorry. There is nothing that would make that ok. It makes me so sad for 11 year old you that your Mom didn’t tell you that.

Mary Roach is the best! That chapter on ER sex emergencies was...illuminating.

Yes. I also think it can be shocking how you respond in the moment compared to how you think you might respond.

Yes! And in re-reading my response I feel like it maybe also is perpetuating this idea that there is a good way to behave. No one has to be a badass, or be smart or strong or brave. You can be none of those things and still not deserve to be assaulted.

Ooooh... I haven’t heard that name in a long time!