Ew, that wins the award for creepiest pick up line. I had forgotten about a dad I didn’t really work for—the parents weren’t together and he just dropped the kid off a few mornings a week. He once said something along the lines of “I bet you’ve been very naughty too.” VOM.

Yeah I hate the phrasing here, but it’s actually pretty common for men to “cheat down,” meaning they go for a less attractive, less successful woman. Women generally do the opposite when they cheat. I think women oftem times consider themselves in the clear so long as the woman their husband is spending time with is…

Any other nannies always painfully aware of the “hot nanny” stereotype and the unspoken awkward dynamic with dads that comes with that? None of the dads I ever worked for were even remotely creepy, but I still always felt like I had to be extra careful and avoid being too friendly.

Hah I have a black friend who’s sorta sheltered and a bit younger than I am who saw an artsy photo I modeled in for a photographer friend in which I was topless, and she was absolutely bewildered by my super pink nipples (uber ginger, so everything about me is pale), saying something along the lines of “I can’t even…

That alias is amazing.

Yup, my “natural cycle” includes lots of emotional destabilization around my period and hormonal migraines. If avoiding those two things by taking the pill continuously constitutes “scary long-term effects” I’ll take all the effects please. I get that the pill isn’t for everyone—my sister is actually among those…

They always wear a bigger size than a real human that small would since it’s so difficult to dress an inflexible body. I’m thin, but by no means mannequin-sized and once got pants off a mannequin that fit perfectly. I want to say they were size 27? Not 24, which is definitely the size a human that size would wear.

This doesn’t take care of the sound and therefore wouldn’t help me in most of the situations in which I need to fart, but cannot acceptably do so. I’d say sound is at least equally as problematic as smell in terms of farting in public, possibly more so because you can try to pass off a silent but deadly fart as…

That’s my feeling. I refuse to dumb myself down or pretend to be less assertive because I don’t want someone who is looking for a partner like that. I actually dated a guy who was quite explicit about how much he loved my smarts and sass, unfortunately he wasn’t enough of an intellectual to keep me stimulated. He sort…

I’ve studied marriage in a few different classes, and it’s statistically pretty standard that men are happier in marriages than women are. Married men outrank their single counterparts happiness-wise, whereas unmarried women are actually slightly happier on average than married women.

Yup. I’m not sure I’ve ever been called agreeable. Sassy is the word that seems to come up most. I learned in one of my classes awhile back that for the most part divorce rate and education level are inversely correlated, with the exception of when the wife has a higher level of education than the husband, in which…

Oh my god the flower/gardener thing is so perfect. I’ve been trying to find a nice way to explain the fact that my ex required more taking care of than I do and the caretaker role isn’t one I’m used to fulfilling, nor is it one I care for. But I sorta sound like a brat when I say that I want to be the one who gets…

Yeah honestly my takeaway is that stupid people are happier. I don’t think it actually has anything to do with the average person being more happy with a less educated person, it’s just that the less educated people who probably married similarly uneducated people are happier than the miserable smarty pants with their…

This is because people consider women’s looks more variable for whatever reason. The creators of OKCupid did a really interesting analysis back when the site had explicit attractiveness ratings. The men’s ratings of women took on a standard bell curve with a peak at 3 and basically equal amounts in each tail. The…

I really think people who get upset by other people’s travel stories are mostly just jealous. I’ve traveled a fair amount and sometimes still get pangs of envy when I hear about particularly awesome trips my friends/family are taking. I imagine that if I were a less traveled person and/or had a different disposition…

I think it’s great you’ve gotten to a place you’re happy with. I don’t think your experience is the norm though, and I don’t think you can generalize from it and say that other people won’t benefit from therapy. Something like 90%+ of HSDD sufferers respond to therapy.

Any legitimate therapist would determine whether the distress was truly personal or whether it was the result of a shitty partner. That being said, there are A LOT of awful therapists, so I’m sure there are plenty of people who are incorrectly handed this diagnosis.

Yup. And with misperceptions about what the first line of treatment should be. Who wouldn’t choose a simple fix like a pill over therapy if each were presented as equally valid options? This is going to be seen as a simple, effective fix when it isn’t really either in reality.

The thing is, there not at all equal in terms of efficacy. There are instances in which therapy is actually more effective than either medication alone or even medication + therapy. I totally get that there are drawbacks to therapy just like there are serious drawbacks to both medications. I think people are really…

Ah that makes sense. I also might be remembering lifetime incidence rather than prevalence.