My husband is German, and his family is convinced that our son’s autistic traits are all just normal kid stuff and it’s not a big deal. Honestly, it’s nice after kiddo has a meltdown and my mother in law is just shrugs and says “It happens, there was a lot going on today” and then gives him snuggles if he will let her.…

Disregard

Thank you!

Our first kiddo at 39 was on the first try, which was a HUGE shock....but the second was more difficult. I was able to get pregnant, but had a hard time staying pregnant. Long story short - I was prescribed progesterone and it all worked out w/ baby #2. I’m now 44 and I just started weight training so my old…

Same here! Met husband at 35, first kid at 39 and second at 43! Honestly I think I’m waaaay more patient / generally better human now than I ever was in my 20s and 30s.

I didn’t meet my husband until I was 35, and we had our first kid when I was 39. We just had our second kiddo and I’m now 44. Honestly I would not have had the patience and grounding for a lot of things if I had them earlier.

However, with our last baby I did have a lot of health issues - even though we wanted another…

There are so many of these fucking people.

When we were TTC our second child and failing terribly we began looking into adoption. Then possibly into autistic adoption since our son was on the spectrum....then I got sucked down the black hole that is special needs adoption from foreign countries through Reece’s…

Was not fast enough to find this pic and edit it in. Class photo. About a month and a half after I got the boys cut that the stylist suggested I use mousse and spike. Totally forgot that I went though a big earrings phase so that people could tell I was a girl since I had not hit puberty yet.

Two weeks before my first day at junior high I let my best friends highlight my dark brown shoulder length hair...with an entire bottle of Sun-In. The resulting hair color could only be described as “brassy carrot mess”. My mom freaked out and took me to the local hair salon a few days before school - aaand unbeknownst…

This fucking sucks.

Exactly! I thought I knew everything when I was 16-20 years old...

Yeah, see me when you are 40 something and have lived though a few pregnancies that didn’t work out the way you had hoped. See me after you have lived on your own for a few years and you realize not everything is so simple.

Convincing kids that have not really lived outside of the bubble yet that abortion, etc = EVIL…

It won’t let me edit, but the pill is great for most women. But I don’t buy into the one size fits all nonsense that has been pushed on us for years.

ARGH - I tried to take multiple versions of the pill for about 20 years bc I bought into the BS that I needed it.

It’s one of those medications that worked for almost everyone I knew, but I would get psychotic and violent on it....like screaming at random people for perceived slights and having intrusive thoughts about…

When I worked in California, my deductible was $1800, and my max out of pocket was $7500. I have friends that are still working out there with similar shitty insurance. Since moving back to the East Coast, I’m back to “normal” insurance with a 500 deductible and 1500 max out of pocket. Paying the same amount of $$.

My son has special needs, and I live in the middle of the woods. There are like, 2 daycares out here and they either NEVER return phone calls, or have a waitlist a mile long. My family does not live close by and I’m pretty stuck.
I did sign up for care.com and those sons of betches automatically created an ad for me…

While ABA is listed as a “proven” treatment for autism, it still is pretty bullshit. I would not dream of keeping my son from flapping his hands when he is happy or stopping him from stimming when he is upset. He’s showing joy or comforting himself....and there is nothing wrong with that.
ABA also pushes the fact my…

Oh my god, my ex husband used to pull this shit. Talking about sleeping with other women, taunting me, provoking me to lose my shit, and then playing the victim. He used to even force himself to throw up so he could say “look at how upset you’ve made me”*

You need more stars.  My autistic kid is amazing.

As a mother of an autistic son, you would be amazed at how often anti-vaxx and essential oil bullshit gets tossed around IRL as well.

I’ve got my “I will fucking murder you with a spoon right now but my baby is here-look” down pat.

This article made me think of my dance teacher 30+ years ago:

“I don’t care if someone messes up the dance, I don’t care if they fall down, I don’t care if you fall - the show must go on. You will pretend that it never even happened and keep moving. Now smile big girls! Smile bigger! BIGGER!!!”