We put it both on the invitation (Adult Only Reception) and the RSVP cards. We filled in how many “spots” were reserved for the person, and they filled out how many of those “spots” they’ll be using. We allowed our immediate family to bring kids (or if they were coming from out of town and had no other option”, as…
Exactly right! Hell half the time the kids don’t WANT to go to a wedding were they are forced to dress up and are expected to be on best behavior on front of a tone of people they don’t know! I think adult only weddings and receptions are an excellent idea. I had a cousin who knew that she wanted only adults and so…
My fiance and I are not children people. We asked several family members and friend their thoughts on not having kids there, and they were are cool with it (to our faces). To drive home the point, our RSVP cards say “please note this event is for people aged 12+” cause that shit gets expensive. And we are cold,…
I’m sorry, but I have a kid, and there is no way in hell I would bring him to a wedding. He can’t even sit still for five minutes. I would not expect my child to be invited to any event unless it specifically said children welcome. However, I understand that a lot of people assume weddings are family affairs, so I…
It may have been considered rude in the past to explicitly state “no kids” on the invitations, but this is 2015. People don’t all live in the same town and know the bride’s mom who is traditionally the Chief Disseminator of information of that kind. So if you don’t want kids at your wedding, SAY SO. It’s rude not to,…
And NOBODY wants to talk about the environment and social order this guy grew up in as it was translated by his illness! These things are not separate!
This guy was taught that maleness is earned through sexual agency and—failing that—violence. We enter our sons into a heteronormative process on these vile terms. It’s no surprise that young men who fail to meet unrealistic standards for gender would become violent towards each other, violent towards women, and…
aside from an EXTREME psychotic break, mental illness is not an excuse.
I say keep with the theme of not allowing mental illness (real or suspected) to be used as an excuse for violent behavior. Period. Yes its a black man in this case, and yes its still horrible when this shit is done for white guys that do violence but the solution isn't to broaden the excuse, its to shrink it.
As someone with bipolar: Goddammit.
I am kind of torn here. Mainstream media always notes the mental illness of white men when we do stuff like he did but then feminists always push back on that, so what is correct response here? I have bipolar and i’ve never hammered a woman in the face (such a good ally) but finding this one difficult to sort.
Yeah, I think this guy was a racist, sexist pig mainly. There are tons of bipolar people who would never hurt a fly or only pose a danger to themselves. Let’s call him what he is.
My only hope is that our spiteful little governor and his dim-witted attorney general will go to such lengths to deny equal rights that they end up committing an impeachable offense. Also, right down the road from the Texas State Capitol, Austin City Hall looks like this:
“WaAaAah!!!! We have to start treating Gays & Lesbians like human beings! WaAaH!!!”
Heehee I was tempted to post “suck it haters” on my facebook, but none of my friends are the haters so it would have been lost. I’m glad someone got to say suck it.
When a woman’s Facebook relationship status switches to “engaged,” the comments that ensue are pretty predictable.…
