THIS. So much. It has happened to me so much at this point, that now whenever a guy wants to "hang out" I end up spending the whole time suspiciously watching for some signal that he thinks it is something more than "hanging out".
THIS. So much. It has happened to me so much at this point, that now whenever a guy wants to "hang out" I end up spending the whole time suspiciously watching for some signal that he thinks it is something more than "hanging out".
I was living with my boyfriend of five years when I started graduate school and this guy in the same program as me kept asking if I wanted to 'hang out' stupid me, I thought 'hang out' meant be friends, meet before class, discuss our mutual course of studies. Dude even knew I was living with a long term boyfriend …
COMMUNICATION, PEOPLE. It's like fucking magic. Not making your desires and expectations clear is not a fun game. That's just shitty interpersonal skills.
I have never ever been asked out on a first date by someone who actually called it a date. Even guys whom I've had a kind of sexual thing going on with them or who I knew had a giant crush on me, when they asked me out, they would always either ask to "meet up" or "hang out" or do a specific activity. I do agree with…
I don't know, but it has really made me question/look closer at other casual friendships I had with various guys, because some wires are getting crossed! It's like they don't understand what women can want to be friends and not want the sex from them.
me too! So much weird drama from guys who even said they wanted to be friends when I started dating my boyfriend. If they wanted more than friendship why not say so?
THIS. I have had so much weird drama out of nowhere due to guys thinking that our casual, once in a while hangouts with NO romantic aspect meant that they had the right to freak out when I started exclusively dating someone else.
It's really annoying how they can come right out and say it that they just want something casual and save everyone a whole lot of drama and hurt feelings.
One *could* argue that the sad part is how easily women are giving in to that lack of effort.
Exactly! If you ask someone to hang out, you cannot be upset if you make a move and it's not well received, let alone if your hangout buddy goes on an honest to goodness date with someone else.
My rule of thumb was: if you wanted to go out on a date, ask for a date. If you just want to hang out and get coffee, I will automatically assume no interest in anything but friendship. (A rule I applied to myself, as well.)
But are you going steady?
I remember finding a book in a bookstore on dating advice for lesbians: 'is it a coffee date or a coffee date?' Something along those lines. So true.
Okay, this does not surprise me. This debate gets me all heated, too, because I am 25 and still get the "let's hang out" thing, and it drives me up the wall. I am an adult, I don't want to "hang out" or "chill". Either we are on a date or we are not. If you're not looking for a relationship, say that. If you are, say…
There is literally nothing that irritates me more.
If it's a date lets just call it a date. If you want to go out with another human bejng and have potentially romantic feelings then just go. On. A. Date. I hate the idea of "talking" vs "hanging out" vs "dating" vs "seeing someone" vs whatever other thing you want to…
Love the color, but I can't get behind this outfit.
This is weird but I wish the line were cleaner on the bottom half of the top. There is something about the way it hangs slightly askew that makes me think it is torn at the side. That said, the pink is lovely on her lips, her purse and her blouse and...DEM SHOES. They're hot as hell but I hope she got to take them off…
Couldn't he have just reported that her credentials were fraudulent? I don't understand what her being trans has anything to do with golf, the club, or her lying about her education and experience. It feels like the reporter only included it because he thought it made it more interesting and would get more people to…
Wow. As a genderqueer person working in science who used to be in journalism... This has got all my thoughts and feels. When I publish in science, I would absolutely expect someone reporting on that to check my credentials. Perhaps because she had never actually worked in scientific research, she didn't realize this.…
This is so typical for someone in a place of priviledge and power to go and say "Oh, this person's reaction to my actions is not my responsibility. Maybe if she hadn't been so deceptive this wouldn't have happened. (because it seems clear the reporter sees being trans as being deceptive) "She was suicidal anyways,…