No problem! I don't get to boast about my sexual exploits in real life, so I don't mind sharing here.

Thanks!

I totally hear where you're coming from. I myself am not traditionally attractive. I have been rejected sexually by people whom I have hit on after a long friendship. (NOT friendships which I started or sustained in the hopes of sex/love.) The part that is toxic is when there is a sense of entitlement. When they don't…

I'm not sure that my advice is going to help you that much, but here goes.

You've established a really toxic trinary if your only three relationship choices are try to be friendly and hope she falls for you or try to make a woman jealous and hope she falls for you or be a leering lout.

I am in my 40's and find them online. The guys are in their 20's though.

If someone finds, "Hey, do you want to go on a date with me sometime?" as too forward, they probably weren't going to want to go on a date with you later either. It's good to get your interest out early on (like within the first few times you meet), otherwise you end up over-thinking it. If I'm interested in a guy,…

I don't think your situation sounds like friend-zoning in either direction. I think it just sounds like a friendship where boundaries got muddled, and things turned into a mess. That is not the same as an expectation that friendship will turn into something more if you just keep being nice enough. But as you say,…

Since you're asking for advice, I would say to go to an Alanon meeting. You'll hear from other people in your situation and what worked for them. They won't tell you how to get your husband to stop drinking, but they can help you find ways to live a life that is happy for you.

Yes, "Let's just be friends," does get tired after a while. When I get that I usually say, "That's okay, I've got plenty of friends." Guys usually seem relieved.

Fuck every guy who wants it? No thanks! Some of them are smokers and Republicans. I never fuck smokers or Republicans. That doesn't mean we can't be friends though.

It can be very dehumanizing to find out that the person had no interest in you as a person but only as an object they would like to stick their dick in. I don't think it requires a prior assault to feel icky.

Good for you for being self-aware. I think it's a shame that the rom-com industrial complex reinforces these ideas, and you're lucky and smart to have outgrown them.

What makes you think that guys who do the girl-friend zoning are uniformly 'unattractive'? I mean, that kind of game playing is unattractive, but its not only guys who don't meet societal expectations for physical beauty who do it. Plenty of guys of a variety of attractiveness levels do this, partly because they are…

If you were dating and he said he wanted to downgrade to friendship status, that is not the same as being "friend-zoned." Being friend-zoned is when (in the victimized mind of the person using the term) the guy (it's usually a guy) wants to date the girl, but instead of asking her out he tries to be her friend. Then…

Yes! As in, "No, she didn't friend-zone you; you girlfriend zoned her." Or, "Get over it, dude. You girl-friend zoned her, and that prickly feeling is the consequence. Next time, ask the girl out on a date if you like her."

Okay, so my abortion made my son autistic. But what made him gay? Or did his homosexuality retroactively make him autistic? So his future gay activity (he's only ten) reached back through time and... wait! I understand! She's a moron. That explains everything.

I'll shave whatever sticks out of the sides of my panties and down my thighs (I don't want to tickle his ears). But if I even trim too much of the main thatch it tickles and/or hurts. The hairs are straight enough at the base that if I trim them they make a kind of bed of nails for my panties, and then sharp hairs…

My easily distracted, emotional, math-loving, tidy, sports indifferent, colorful son who crushes on boys would fit into neither of their constricting gender roles. I'm glad that his fifth grade teachers don't expect him to.

My 65-year-old mom is having this problem right now. She keeps going out to dinners and shows with this guy (much younger than her), but she's not sure if they're dating or just hanging out. I told her that if you're not at least kissing, then he's not your boyfriend.