is it a left shark or a right shark?

she actually did opposition research on him...like any reasonable candidate would.

Also a real quote from about 6:15.

YUP. You’ve gotta commit. I am terrible at giving them the “don’t give a fuck I’m coming through” look and pushing through.

Once I was in an airport (it’s important to this story to mention that it wasn’t crowded at the time) walking to my gate when a man grabbed me by the shoulders from behind and moved me to the side so he could rush past me.

This. This so much. This is my go-to example whenever I try to start this conversation with a well-meaning but clueless dude. I did it with my dad first – I asked him who usually gets out of the way when he and a woman are approaching each other on the sidewalk, and he looked at me like I was a crazy person. He didn’t…

I didn’t start to realize how pervasive these behaviors were until at least my thirties but I now do the same thing as you. I will even fold one arm a little across my chest so I will only shoulder check them with rather than have full boob contact. And when I’m walking with my dog, who through no fault of her own is…

No, that is not what I said at all. My comment was that if he thinks he doesn’t know any men who would talk this way or behave this way, he is oblivious. That doesn’t at all suggest that every many sexually harasses/assaults women.

The friend of a friend who works at the university library, who felt me up at a holiday and then apologized for potentially offending my husband.

If you have dirtbags in your circle of friends, they probably sounded you out at some point in subtle ways about your opinions on women. A casual comment, an aside, something that they could brush off if you called them on it and escalate if you kept silent or agreed. If they found out you were the type of guy who…

Or for something even less sexual, the way a lot of men expect you to turn aside when you’re walking towards each other. Because they think they’re the ones who have somewhere to be, you’re the one responsible for getting out of the way.

Warning - somewhat predictably, this contains descriptions of sexual assault.

I say this not to be rude or make assumptions about your friends (just based on how many women this happens to, it seems likely)—you probably do have friends who have done this and if you haven’t seen it, you’ve been lucky or they don’t think you would be impressed. I say this because I have wonderful male friends who…

While I just commented and said I’ve never seen anything like this, I have over the years come to realize how horrible what guys I went to college called having “game” really was. It was typically about being able to move quickly enough to get a drunk girl to hook up without having time for second thoughts. Hearing…

As another guy who hasn’t seen anything like this in person, watching the cat call videos that went viral a couple years ago was eye opening. Predators seem to make a point not to do this in front of other men to minimize the likelihood of getting called out for their shit. It’s really horrifying to think that…

You’re not magically blessed with great friends, I promise. Early on in our relationship, my boyfriend’s best friend came to my house party and tried to rape one of my friends. There were tons of witnesses, it was undeniable, and yet my boyfriend had ABSOLUTELY no clue his friend was ‘like that’, because he’d always…

If you don’t know anyone like this, you have a high-quality circle of respectful, decent friends. We would wish that it would be “normal quality”, but sadly, that is not the case.

I feel bad for the people who go through racism and sexism on a daily basis and still won’t admit that it is happening to them or worse, make bullshit excuses for it like they are perfectly okay with it happening to them because they understand.

This public conversation is galvanizing for women, and I suppose quite educational for those men who go through life without the slightest clue of the perniciousness and insidiousness of rape culture and daily grind of negotiating your way through it as a woman. But what I find disturbing is the contingent of men who…