In my arsenal:

I read artisanal as 'artis anal' every time. So, yeah, not a fan of these ice cubes.

Dare I ask what it was?

I WANT THAT TO BE A REAL CARD

I think the author was referring to the way that society asks women "who's going to look after the children?" when they go to work, but never asks the same to the father. Jez has touched on this a lot, most recently with Hillary Clinton.

You cannot make icing by sprinkling powdered sugar all over a wet patio table/

Off topic, but someone help me out here.

I like the way you think.

Well, shit. At least 199,999 of those images are mine.

Everything you just said is perfection.

Okay. We'll agree to disagree then.

begging for advice on how to get his wife, who is literally afraid of performing oral sex on him, to just kind of lick it a little.

I would worry about a stranger knowing where I live. I know that part of my fear comes from the abusive ex-husband - if the man I loved and married ended up hurting me, and coming back after we split to try to break into my house to do it again, how can I trust strangers? - but I would be very wary about that.

I'm not victim-blaming. I thought I made that pretty clear right from the beginning. I ask for myself, and for others in my situation.

I'm going to respectfully disagree. Women don't ever need to be told it's their fault if they're assaulted. I understand that the point you're making is more safety tips = more opportunity for someone to say "you weren't careful enough; everyone knows you need to do X to keep safe". But some of us have no experience…

See, personally, I would have seen a guy bringing other dates along as a sign that everything is peachy. You know, "there are witnesses, so he can't do anything". So this is an eye-opener.

Ssssh. I'm now picturing a world where there are sexual volunteer groups. All the men are large and bearded and tattooed.

Thank you for the advice. Here's a very specific question: what about sex? What's safer, his place? A hotel? My place would be out of the question, that I'm sure of. There's no way that can be safe.

Well, I do understand it. It is a very fine line to tread. Take - just as an example - anti-rape clothing. It already exists. Imagine if women-centric blogs like Jezebel encouraged women to wear anti-rape clothing for their own protection. Women are already blamed for their own rapes. If we went around encouraging…

Kara/Jezebel, can we please have a feature on safe hookups/dating?