Actually, I'm eating right now...

A few points:

That sucks. I hope that he gets through his issues and you are able to get through yours. I can pretty much guarantee that your body is more beautiful that you think it is, though.

Don't take his deflation as an insult. Ever. Under any circumstances. His arousal is controlled almost entirely by himself.

I'm ridiculous to argue with? Do you even know what the word "narcissistic" means? You projected that label without actually knowing anything about me and my understanding of the concept of self and of love thereof. There was no mention of "self" up to this point.

Based on these posts, "you" are likely awake.

As a minister, this is a great opportunity for spiritual teaching.

You also have to qualify the barometer, too. Some people - even groups of people - may perceive that you suck. That group could be filled with people who have no solid grasp on reality.

Good points. And also, who would want to buy a high-maintenance American girl, anyway? Poor value for the money...

Please tell me the level of my grace, compassion, and kindness without projecting your own bias onto it.

Yes, well if no one is abusing them in the present moment, who is causing their suffering? You? Me? Kim Jong Un? If you are sitting alone in a room and suffering, who is causing it? Really look at that.

So when you sit with someone to help them process incomplete fight/flight responses, what do you do? Do you talk or do you physically try to beat them? If you just talk, are they having thoughts about the issue? Isn't it thought that is processing all of this to help them heal?

Yes, every person has their own truth. Sometimes this truth does not accurately reflect reality, though. They can have delusions that distort their reality into one of suffering. Just because something is true for them, doesn't make it a universal truth. A kid can TRULY believe that there is a monster under the…

You're welcome to stop reading at any point you like. :-)

Firstly, "pain" is an actual physical sensation. What they feel may seem physical, but it is the mind (thoughts, actually) that causes present suffering about a past or future event. There is only the present moment. Past and future are conceptual thoughts. Thoughts can have great power over us until we really see…

Is this meant as useful advice? What does it really mean to "get real?" What are these demons, and how do you chase them out of the corners of what, exactly? How can one apply this tremendously useful advice?

I'm not saying that you need to have any contact with your mother, but don't keep torturing yourself long after the experience is gone. If you can't let it go, who can? If not now, when? How does it serve you to keep holding onto it? How does it make your present experience more rich by holding on to it? How does…

No. "Cold" is a label that you mentally attach to some temperature. It has nothing to do with energy.

I've taken my own advice. (It wasn't "my" advice at the time, however.) I fully understand how hard it is to start - and how easy it is when you realize it. When people are set off by "implication," it is their own thought that is attaching this label to something that is said, and them setting themselves off over…

I didn't intent to offend by the remark to "live in the present." That remark is only offensive if you are attaching something else to it, though. You might have had some visual thought about someone being flip while making this remark.