Oh god that's skeevy. I've known more than a few blossoming-MRA types who were into that evo-psych horseshit and fancied themselves "therapists" online. It's the internet equivalent of those weird, boundary-obliterating creepy guys in college who say they love doing "neck rubs"—on women only, natch, so they can get…

I'm totally okay with this idea.

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SHOCKED YES SHOCKED I AM that alcohol was a factor in this woman's decision-making process.

For a man who makes movies that are famously regarded as explorations of the human condition, his response does seem singularly tone-deaf and self-serving. I saw what he wrote and thought "gaslighting" too. If I were accused of something that horrific, you can damn well bet my reaction wouldn't be to hand-wave it away…

Real story: online gaming

I was an admin on an online game, and he was a player who I'd never even seen before that morning. The night before our big meeting I'd just destroyed something big doing something ridiculously stupid that I'd forgotten I wasn't supposed to do (in terms of scale, think "World of Warcraft and all the monsters, quests,…

I am too, and I'm glad that I am. I hate being manipulated by false stories. The world's full enough as it is of terrible stuff that deserves sympathy.

My mom died of cancer, and I can definitely tell you that she got a lot of this kind of shit from her friends and even most of her family. She was supposed to start exercising and eating right "to beat cancer." She was supposed to go off and have fun with her bucket list (yeah, good luck with that, with chemo making…

I just realized that Den must have given the Priestess a nice Level Four in Heavy Metal.

I get just like that after too much coffee.

I think I actually owned the Jefferson Starship album from the 80s that inspired this print.

"Work with me" is the entitled jackass' mating call. The second you hear it, you know what they're really saying is "please break every rule in the book and go against your own self-interest in order to protect me from the consequences of my own piss-poor decisions."

If you're 33 and haven't seen enough of a benefit to sway you into wanting kids, chances are you're not going to. We live in a culture that is positively awash in those Kodak moments—not for nothing is America said to be in a Cult of Motherhood. And yet you're 33, swimming daily in a culture that loves to push…

Jesus christ. One in five women hits her 40s without having had kids. We're not some weird-ass minority or something.

It takes a hell of a lot of bravery to say something like that. I really, really, really hope it works out. Please remember if you have the kid and really don't want to be a parent, there are alternatives to raising him/her yourself. I really wish you the best. Good luck, okay?

Trust yourself. Please. The worst thing abusers do is make survivors doubt themselves and their reactions to things.

Oh wow, thanks! :)

Yeah, but not with pregnancy.

I think you're asking some very good questions here. And there is a very easy answer: poverty. Poverty accounts for quite a few of those abortions; one study I saw said it was the driving factor in about a third of abortions they looked at. Between not having access to contraception to not having the resources to care…