Yeah, the autism was buried inside her only legit point - that it’s annoying when people who don’t know what they’re talking about try to give you advice on how to raise your kids.

I almost feel bad for her though. She is clearly driving herself into a complete mental breakdown any day now, and she will have absolutely no friends left around her when it happens. Her poor kids.

That is the worst thing I’ve ever read. I hate you a little for exposing me to that woman.

I feel pretty confident in asserting that you don’t ‘get’ Her. FFS, you haven’t even watched the whole film.

Thanks for saying everything I was thinking about Her, so I didn’t have to. Ironic that someone who names themselves after a famous story about the blurred line between humans and AI would have such trouble understanding Her.

Swimsuits with high waist-bands are certainly "in" right now. Wearing them under see-through dresses is probably just a festival thing.

I notice you didn’t actually answer my question - still dreaming about getting that phone call some day, eh?

I’m not “averse” to calling a date a date if that’s how it goes down - that’s just literally never how it has ever worked out in my life thus far. This isn’t even me acting this way - I don’t really need to go out of my way to ask guys out; they generally pursue me, with encouragement.

I don’t understand how you and MisfitToy see my stance as something strange and controversial. It seems like the natural progression to me: you meet someone you like, you flirt with them when you encounter each other in group settings, you start texting back and forth regularly, you arrange to meet one-on-one for the…

I’m not sure why you felt you had to get so mean towards the end of this conversation, but congratulations, you’ve managed to really upset me! I hope you feel good about yourself.

Whatever. I don’t like talking on the phone. I don’t think I’ve ever once spoken on the phone to a single one of my friends who live in the same city as me. I have dated guys for months without ever speaking to them on the phone. If a friend called me at this moment, I would probably panic and wonder what the hell was…

Do you think people should break up over the phone then? Should doctors tell patients they have a terminal disease over the phone? Should a boss fire employees over the phone? People have intentions they do not share in advance all the time, because some things are considered better in person.

How is it subterfuge to text a friend I’ve been flirting with to say, “Hey, do you want to grab a beer tomorrow?” And then at the bar, after a bit of normal friendly chit chat, ask, “So, you’re interested in me, right?” How is that less direct than asking them that on the phone?

I believe it’s possible - just possible now - that she was also indulging in a bit of light-hearted hyperbole when she described her probable reaction to the occurrence.

I guess that’s a possibility. If both people are socially competent, I think it is usually pretty obvious that there is a mutual attraction at that point. You don’t just begin this process out of the blue, without any flirting or back-and-forth. The conversation on the date is just the final confirmation.

I think I’m just pushing the “making it known” step to the in-person meeting though. You text to set up a rendezvous, and once there, you ask them if they’re interested in you that way. That’s the way it’s always worked out for me when I’ve started dating someone I was already friends with (not that that’s a huge…

To be fair, I think what irritated her was that they lied about why they didn’t answer, and she imagines that they were intentionally keeping her waiting just to fuck with her. Personally, I don’t think the read receipt is necessarily proof that they were lying. Someone could be asleep, hear their phone go off,…

I’d actually agree with him that it’s not necessary to call someone on the phone to ask them on a date. Who wants to talk on the phone? But you do need to actually invite them to a one-on-one activity, and then once there, make sure they are on the same page about it being a date.

Just as a warning, the Enneagram that Zeetal is talking about has no scientific or empirical basis. If it helps you understand your late ex-husband better and come to terms with things, that's great, but don't let its pseudo-scientific sheen convince you that it is the absolute truth about people and personalities. …

I'm so sorry to read your story. I think it's the saddest one here. If it makes you feel any better, you are not the first person I've heard of who had a strange, sexless honeymoon and yet stuck it out for over a decade in the strange, sexless marriage that followed.