Pok Pok is on the water in Brooklyn and is DELICIOUSSSSSSSSS. My boyfriend's mom was recently visiting and wanted to go there after seeing it on tv on a couple of different foodie shows. It lived up to the hype, which was surprising because famous things rarely do. We tried just about everything on the menu and…

Yeah and had she said that, it would probably be closer to the truth. But I'm pretty sure that Michonne's "girl" legs have killed many more zombies than some of the men who have "guy" legs on the show. It's the sexist generalization that got the side-eye. Saying Michonne may be smaller/weaker than Tyreese is one…

Yeah, I read that with some serious side-eye. So serious, I almost hurt myself.

WILLFULLY obtuse is right.

Righttt. I agree. I was just making the point that cookies look more like cookies than Windex does. So your line of arguing isn't pointing out anything new. I think that unlabeled alcohol in food is just as dangerous and unlabeled and easily accessible edibles. Just because alcoholic whipped cream exists doesn't mean…

Okay sure, you can make the argument that once you twist the top off of Windex and look inside, it looks like fruit punch. But if we're being rational and honest here cookies look more like cookies than Windex looks like fruit punch. Like a LOT more. There is a difference between kids going after things that don't…

True, but these things don't look like DELICIOUS BROWNIES AND COOKIES AND CANDY. If edibles looked like Windex, I don't think people would be clamoring for child-resistant packaging.

Yeah, it wasn't at all unbelievable though. Like it was shitty that she said it, but she was also giving voice to the reality for a lot of people every day. It's not that many white and privileged people don't know that they are willfully ignoring truths that inconvenience them— a lot of people know exactly how good…

Spot on. I went, and while I enjoyed looking — my day was legitimately ruined by RIDICULOUS things said and done by other patrons while I was there.

Yes her experience absolutely is valid. I made a point of mentioning that myself. I was clarifying for other readers of GT that her experience is not representative of all biracial people raised by a non-minority parent.

Wow. That person sounds like a jerk.

It wasn't tone policing. And if you read the thread, you'll see that she and I figured out where our signals were getting crossed. I said in my original comment, that may be her experience but it is certainly not every biracial person's experience— that was the point I was trying to make. Since Jezebel and Groupthink…

I bet it totally does. I don't think most people look EXACTLY like their parents though.

Yeah I totally agree with you there. It almost certainly will bring up some shitty life experiences, but the blame for why those situations happen will lie with the assholes who say awful things, not Payton or her moms.

I'm not actually angry at all, I just disagree. You can check out the rest of the thread for an explanation of how. I think the bigged part of the issue is that the statement It is no fun being raised by a woman you look nothing like doesn't really make it clear that the it's not the being raised by a parent who…

Yeah, but what you are missing is that this girl might look like her mom when she grows up. She has half of her DNA. Having brown skin and your mom having white skin doesn't mean that you don't look anything alike, it just means you are different colors. I have my mom's nose, and chin, and eyes and she's white and I'm…

Sure, they are different experiences but it seems like you are thinking of only one of them as the "default." And you're also assuming that being near or close to the same skin tone as someone = looking like them. Hell, some 100% white people don't look anything like their parents and my brother who is many shades…

While I get that, and your experience is totally valid, there are people who don't look like their parents who aren't "adapting." Because people are looking at race as a binary in this situation (which is ridiculous because Payton is this woman's biological child and is half white) they are forgetting that MANY times,…

I'm sorry, but "It is no fun being raised by a woman you look nothing like," is some generalized bullshit. You may feel that way, but I don't and I'm sure there are a gazillion other people out there who really enjoyed be raised by their mothers despite looking different. Being raised by my mother wasn't the issue, it…

Yeah, that make-up is CRAY. And as someone said below, the eyebrow change-up is probably adding to my confusion as well.