I didn't know about the Polanski thing. I wish the author had specified it if that is what motivated the eww.

I'd like a more detailed explanation for the "eeewww." I'm not very moved by reactions of moral disgust. I like to know why the author thinks this is disgusting. Is it the age, or the looks of the older adult? Something else? What is it? Explain the disgust in words, dear writer.

Yeah I'm tired of that too. Another common trope, is for the character to have a really convenient miscarriage (usually an ectopic pregnancy or falling down the stairs), which completely takes away the agency of the character. I have rarely (never?) seen a character that actually made the decision to have an abortion…

Consent makes it legal. It doesn’t make it good.

Yeah, I'm not sure I agree. I don't claim to have my views on this sorted—I really don't. And I'm listening to everyone with an open mind. But I do feel completely and totally comfortable with certain scenes being played out privately and consensually that I wouldn't necessarily feel comfortable with having…

I always thought those were called Purity Rings, and Promise Rings were something your boyfriend gave you in high school because you were totally going to get married some day (and were probably having sex).

Ha! How do you know they aren't healthy, sister? I know, I know, scientific research aside, and despite the fact that just about EVERY physician will tell you about the toll that being overweight brings upon one's health AND the anecdotal fact that you never see an obese person who is, well, really old. I mean,…

i find it strange that as a researcher in a healthcare-related field you think smoking is a choice while obesity is not. neither is a choice.

I respectfully disagree. People with mental health problems and addiction problems are constantly policed and told that they have personal failings for their "personal choices" which are in fact genuine mental disorders. They are also stigmatized for the rest of their lives and never allowed to be "recovered" only…

Completely agree with your assessment of the science- and if two celebrities were on Jezebel promoting malnourishing yourself to stay unhealthily skinny, I'd find it just as outrageous.

They're both obviously very heavy women, beyond a few pounds overweight which isn't healthy. It isn't good for your body. This isn't to say that they aren't both beautiful and talented or that other things aren't unhealthy as well, but we shouldn't be encouraging people to not look after their health. If two very…

I just like the idea that Hollywood is such a bizarro world reality that if you aren't careful, you'll slip up and lose a ton of weight.

Can we add in that if someone has lost or is losing weight, if they're not dying to talk about it, ITZ NOT OK to ask them about it?

Statistically significant patterns of behavior can still be sexist because they don't conform to what people wish the world was.

I wonder what percentage of this is related to fertility. I know in the case of my wife and I we're childless not exactly because of choice (but we've kinda reconciled/embraced the idea), but because it just isn't happening, for whatever reason. Call it genetics, call it environment, who knows? Just an outside data…

The anti-semitism is... irritating. I always feel like comparing oppressions tends to delegitimize your argument you know? And while yes, Jewish people probably have it a lot easier than black people now it's not fair to erase their history and pretend things were always dandy, or to reference them is something that…

Thanks! I've fallen off the wagon, recently, but am trying to get back to (mostly) productive internetting.

I'm not a doctor, but it's clear that he is suffering. There's nothing wrong with pointing out that maybe someone needs help instead of just enabling this behavior.

I am with you mostly on the reactions to Kanye, and I too see him struggling with how to be in a world that he has worked so hard to get into but knows he won't ever be FROM. However. When he starts in with the Jewish people all have connections bit, he loses me.

Well, obviously its the Jewish-controlled media's fault.