Word! It takes a lot of us some time to realize that there's shit we just do not have to put up with. And no one tells us that we actually deserve what we want! I'm the oldest in my family so I think it made me a little more naive than most, but I don't regret the years I spent pleasing others and not myself. I feel…

because she had the audacity to declare to all the men of the world they would never be able to put their dicks in her mouth and that is an affront to the very essence of modern maleness - all mouths everywhere should someday aspire to hold their cocks.

"A woman's pleasure and orgasm are just not that valued."

Yes, all of that, too.

They don't fuck because she has vowed to not have intercourse until she's in a committed relationship.

I totally resonated with this; my first boyfriend would not go down, or if he did it was for like a minute before he got bored. He made me painfully aware that there was something gross about vaginas that he would not put his face near. For a couple of years I had a few flings and barely got head; I never got it to…

Yeah, but a lot of times guys will say they're into eating pussy, then find reasons not to, or to do it really badly and refuse to take direction, then still expect a cookie for their time. I mean, if a woman blowing a guy started biting at him and refused to stop, you wouldn't hear people telling the guy that he…

For my own reasons blowjobs are not something I do, and can I confirm that there are definitely men who love to give it and get off on giving oral sex and don't mind not receiving. I think it's even easier to find a guy who's up for that when intercourse is on the menu, rather than what she's currently doing, though…

Right! What the hell. Just open your mouth and say, "Hey, I would like a blow job" or some such. That downward head press is super, duper gross and weird. It happened the most in the early college years, and I always refused to do anything once it happened because it was so skeevy.

So because she won't blow you she's a terrible lay? You say this after commenting that 'going down is ok but does nothing for me'?

i had a boyfriend, from before i realized i wasnt obligated to blow anyone, who just didnt get it that i actually cannot breathe through my nose and when he pressed my head down it was like holding me under water. That was the straw for me i think.

My feelings EXACTLY! I can almost never get off if we head straight for PIV but ready the ground (heh!) and I can cum multiple times. Dudes are gonna come regardless because DICK. I remember trying to explain a woman's orgasm to guy once. I told him for women it's like rolling a ball up a hill. You have to get the…

At first, I wasn't completely clear why she felt it was important to announce it, but after seeing some of the comments, I guess it was important to announce it. Good grief, people. Women are not obligated to give blow jobs.

Yeah, I mean, what the fuck is this shit? I feel like I might be disproportionately angry about this, but it's an attitude I've encountered a few too many times. NO ONE is obligated to perform any sex act they don't enjoy, or just don't feel like doing, or what have you. And there are plenty of men who don't give a…

Society spends a lot of time telling women that we are extras in our own sex lives instead of a lead role. It doesn't shock me when I hear of women who spend years in relationships with little to no reciprocation.

The point of oral sex in hetero pairings, as far as I'm concerned, is to fully prep the genitals for vaginal sex. Dudes can get hard by all manner of things that don't involve my getting cricks in my neck. Blowjobs are a bonus for when I'm feeling generous.

Right? 'Oh no guys! I looked at the world's blowjob inventory and there are missing blowjobs! We counted them all! A few are missing. Why isn't this cat lady coming up with the missing blowjobs?!"

Blow jobs are a privilege not a right. I enjoy blowing my bf but he is one of those mid 30s inexperienced guys and had only been asked to perform on a lady a couple of times. In his defense he also tried to stop me when I went down on him when we were waiting for a meteor shower early in our relationship because he…

'We should do anal so we could fuck bareback.'
'You should put your clothes on so you don't get kicked out the house naked.'