Look, you guys, here's the facts: none of us will ever get younger, and the luckiest of us will have the privilege of getting older. The alternative is just being dead.

I love this piece. I've always found the "for her age" to be backhanded, even if the person doesn't mean it that way. It makes clear that the person's being evaluated by a standard that is impossible to maintain. "You've managed to dodge the haggard, unbangable bullet — congrats!"

Most of the posters here are under 50. Anyone who thinks that 30 is old hasn't considered the experience of women over 40.

Mostly I'm laughing at the "I'm in my 20s and I still look young and I don't care about aging anyway" comments. Of course you look young in your 20s and it's much, much easier not to care about aging when you haven't done any. Talk to me the first time you wake up with sleep lines on your face that won't go away…

I have the opposite gift: I can tell people's ages within two years, usually bang on target. I don't look at their faces for wrinkles, I observe their behaviour, mannerisms and attitudes. Something about my coworker just felt like 53...she's 53. But she definitely wanted me to say 45. So my gift is also a curse.

Some of these comments are giving me a whole new set of frowns and wrinkles. I mean, seriously. And I'm forty fucking eight.

I'm almost 49. I'm reading here in the "comments" that some women are choosing not to have honest reactions to things in their lives because of lines that might be created/might be shown/might cause them to implode. Holy f***king crap. Seriously?!? You will not fully EXPERIENCE your life because of a fear of getting…

Yup- my grandmother is still loving life in her 80s, but the fact that most of her friends are dead is starting to wear on her. She started hanging out with young ladies in their 60s, but they're starting to drop off, too.

Life is so wacky. You can be young and smooth and beautiful, but you aren't emotionally mature enough to have the perspective to appreciate it. Then you get older and wrinkly and saggy, but you have this glorious lack of self-consciousness that comes with age. Just last night, I finished Zumba and thought about…

Hard work, hard lives, lots of losses. Before vaccines and antibiotics, disease took so many so young. Heartbreak puts the years on you.

I know. I visit my mom in assisted living all the time and I don't want to be even the best-preserved of those people.

It's important to note, I think, that there are different ways of looking "better" as we age. There's looking "good" as meeting certain beauty standards and maintaining (or attempting to maintain) an air of a particular kind of sexiness that fits into a restrictive performance of femininity. But then there's looking…

He believes there will be a cure for aging — that real life-extending technologies will be developed.

On Sunday a cat-caller referenced my college hoodie and asked if I had graduated in the class of '81. I was horrified, as that was the year my mom graduated high school and wouldn't meet my dad for several years. If I seriously look 4 years older than my mom's age, there's a problem that all the Botox in the world…

At 42, if I'm not beautiful to others, oh well. I am to the person in the mirror. It's not that I don't notice the lines, the sag, the pooch. It's that it doesn't make me less of me.

I think that this trend might be that women are afraid of being brought down hard for being wrong because of their gender. If men are wrong it's just the individual and it's taken as "ah, everyone is stupid sometimes." But if a woman is wrong, it's her gender that's the reason why and she can no longer be trusted. I…

I also dislike the measure of "success" being your paycheck and title. How about your wholeness as a person? Your depth of family and social life? Your enrichment in terms of travel and education?

This, so much. When we talk about how men are more successful because they're more confident, "confidence" is a code word for "unbridled, baseless arrogance." So many of the problems in our society are related to the way we reward arrogance, and undervalue realistic levels of confidence.

It's always interesting to me how we frame these questions and discussions in terms of the status quo system as if we can't possibly imagine that the system itself should change. We instead say, "everyone should try to fit the system!" So, to use graduate professional programs as an example, we always sigh and accept…

I read this piece yesterday, and while I see your points, it really rang true for me. I want to preface this by saying that I think this piece, while not explicit about it, was really about white men and women. As a white woman myself, it's accurate to my experience, but I imagine there are many other layers of…