Big Ben was a defensive titan and a rebounding freak. He might have averaged 9 pts. a game....but he easily prevented the opposing team from scoring more than twice that per game.

No, that was not the problem in the comment section. Please.

Yeah, no shit dude.

Not a requirement, but a serious benefit.

Absolutely! That’s not what TamTam is saying - she’s saying no sex, period.

Its not about married couples getting an exception - it was being used as shorthand for established couples - some group that I thought even conservative republicans are sex-positive about. Like, the Duggars wouldn’t even disapprove! (ew, I know). I didn’t think there was anyone on earth so conservative is deny sex to…

There’s a social contract involved though. If you’re going to have sex in someone else’s house, the etiquette is the same as taking a poop; you do it ever-so-quietly and gingerly, as though there were a sleeping bear next to you that could wake up and rip your face of any minute. That’s how it works.

So I’m not REALLY getting into this because I don’t feel like arguing with people I generally respect, but I just wanted to point out that by some definitions of “need”, sex would be considered a need. It’s included in Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs under “love/belonging”. An argument could be made that your…

That phrase is the biggest red flag there is. Ever.

Dude. She’s not double-speaking. Where’s the limit? Some couples fuck daily and are physically affectionate. If they are expected not to fuck (in a private, locked bedroom), are they also expected not to preform any sexual acts. Like, are blow job okay if the partner swallows? Nothing getting on the sheets. What about…

The comments on every article I’ve read here today have been similarly Twilight Zone-ish. What’s up with Jezebel today?

You don’t feel like you’ve be sexually assaulted in such instances? WEIRD

Man, I’m glad my friends aren’t such party poopers. If you hear someone’s sexy times I’m of the opinion that you get to yell “Good Effort!” not get all bummed.

Two people having sex in a private room with the door closed so you don’t even know it’s happening is disrespectful?

“You people?”

And you have no idea what a hang up is or how “personal boundaries” are defined. Other people having sex that you are not a part of in now way crosses any personal boundary. It violates an ARBITRARY boundary.

I am an old. But, fucking hasn’t changed so much since the 90’s, right? Guests bone in your home, that’s what they do. I did it and my guests did it. Now we all go to our own houses at the end of the night. Thank God. I never have to change somebody else’s sex sheets again.

I’m not at all being facetious.

You’ve obviously found a solution that works for you: not having guests or being a guest except with people who have also voiced this particular need. I’m genuinely very happy for you that it works out!

I entirely agree. And so long as you’re explicit about your needs - no couples may be intimate while sharing a vacation condo or staying overnight in your home or splitting a hotel suite - that is absolutely your prerogative.