Holy shit. So I think Hef is problematic for a number of reasons but I really love them featuring a woman of her age. Which is transgressive and awesome. So conflicting feels.

he and the “old guard” seem truly baffled and confused about what has happened to their party in the past 15 years. they don’t know how to play the game anymore and can’t seem to realize that logic, reason & level-headed persuasion are no longer winning tactics. it’s like the political world has moved on and left them…

but maybe then they can go live in a nice retirement home together

All I got from this was that there have been SIXTEEN YEARS since the year 2000.

I don’t know which to be more envious of, your Top Chef tasting or your crossbody ace.

Starred for brutal, brutal honesty

Truthfully, no lives matter. We did nothing after Sandyhook. Kinda shows that we don’t care who dies, even little kids. Once you’re okay with that, the discussion ends.

#StopViolenceAgainstWomenByAppropriatingImagesWithoutConsent

There are three main issues.

I agree completely. My partner years ago abused me in a variety of ways, but he largely made sure it was undetectable, which made it even easier for me to deny the reality of the situation. It wasn’t until he left me with a black eye and a bloody nose and I was found terrified running through the woods did anyone…

Exactly this. There are many forms of physical, emotional and sexual violence that never leave a visible mark. Overuse of the black eye and split lip trope leads people to believe you can spot a victim immediately. You can’t.

There are a lot of very real and rational reasons women experiencing intimate partner violence are silent about it—primarily because they fear for their lives. So by putting the onus on women in active abuse situations to speak up he is essentially blaming them for their own victimization.

Campaigns like this also assume that the issue is just that people aren’t aware of severe physical domestic violence. But they are aware, because we’ve been raising awareness for decades - there are plots about it in movies and tv shows, publicly funded campaigns, huge national discussions about specific incidents,…

The other thing that’s dumb (I don’t use that word casually. I mean this is campaign is truly stupid and unthoughtful) is that it makes the “face of domestic violence victims” into black eyes and split lips. Domestic violence doesn’t always look like that. Like the idea that “anyone can be a victim of DV!” is directly…

Sorry, I cannot get behind this. It does nothing to get the point across of domestic violence and how it affects women.

Eh, I feel like that’s even more exploitative. And if I were Rihanna, Janay Rice, etc., I’m not sure I would be at all comfortable with images of the darkest period of my life being used in an advertising campaign.

The pictures make me feel so awkward only because Kim or Miley haven’t been abused at least to my knowledge. Wouldn’t it be more affected if there was actual photos of women who have been abused? JUST AN IDEA HERE!

Oof. Another problem with domestic violence awareness like this is folks assume it looks like your face is all bruised and cut up. As one of my clients said, “I preferred the beatings. The bruises heal, but I still can’t get the words out of my head.”

I was Team ‘Ran long before the divorce. Of course I was also Team Divorce long before the divorce.