My little brother announced last summer that when he gets married he wants to take his wife’s last name, to try to even the odds of history a bit. My dad was super offended and annoyed with him - and my dad’s, like, very liberal in most ways. People are strange.

I hate watching people cry. I hate this guy’s actions but his sadness still makes me sad. That’s normal, right?

Wait clearly I’m a little slow on the uptake - how is she proof of that? (I mean, like, I know she’s not, but what even is their logic?)

I know Yoko Ono isn’t an entirely sympathetic figure in many people’s eyes, and yes, I know she’s rich and famous and privileged as all get-out, but I think of this and all I can do is feel her trauma. What an awful thing to have happen in your life.

Oooooh it’s an upper class made up name? Yech.

It has always had a strong female fandom despite not being intentionally aimed at women and girls.

I love this comment.

It’s something I’d need to do for personal closure.

I think I’d do it even if I was convinced he was guilty. I’d want to talk to him about it in person.

To be honest, I’d do what Nicki did. It wouldn’t prevent him from standing trial and facing consequences, and I would need to have a conversation with him in person about what happened.

Sweden doesn’t do Zwarte Piete. That’s a totally bananas accusation. We do jultomten and chains of flags on the Christmas tree and excessive drunkenness and creamy fish casserole.

Eyyy one of them turned out to be a woman... wow. When’s the last time that happened?

YIKES haha. My current fuck buddy is a tennis player, and every now and then his right arm just kinda... flops, violently, in his sleep. Fortunately I find this cute so I just have to be the big spoon to keep his arms out of my way :P

Damn. I realize you’re probably right. I assumed it was because it always makes such a fun story when someone who doesn’t appear defiant does something defiant or badass - but your theory sadly makes more sense.

I’m not judging anybody. I’m defending my own experience in response to it being judged.

The hell do you mean you don’t believe me? I can’t prove I’ve been raped, but I can certainly prove I’m not a man with this lovely selfie I took just now. (Not stoned, just don’t sleep enough - hence the red puffy eyes)

You can’t state a general “fact” the way she did without making a generalization.

I’m not dismissing her (presumably) feelings. I’m dismissing her right to speak for me.

I think you’re making a bunch of false assumptions in this comment. I’m a rape victim and I get off on simulated rape. The two are separate in my mind. Maybe that’s because my rape occurred while I was unconscious, whereas my rape fantasies are about more cliché, violent acts. Anyway, I don’t think you can remove that…

Here is the comment to which I was replying: “No one has fantasies about their souls being crushed and their dignity being destroyed and then having flashbacks for years about that, which is what rape is.”