I pass this man every morning at 6:45 on my way to exercise. Literally every morning, one block from my apartment. My husband always warns me to watch out for him but I have just felt sorry for him—he’s clearly deeply mentally ill and completely incoherent. This is chilling. There’s never been anyone around when I…

My mom has asked about us doing this—she thinks we should visit an endocrinologist. Unfortunately, like most men, my husband hates the doctor (he says this insane thing: "If I go to the doctor and they tell me I'm going to die in a month, I'd rather just not know." Uh...coming from a very healthy 30 year old). It's…

Thank you so much for reaching out. I can't tell you how isolated I've felt with this! Yeah, I need to put more of my energies into exercise too. I always feel better after I swim—unfortunately I have one of those bad gym class-trauma relationships with exercise that makes me hesitant, but I need to do more. He goes…

Thank you so much. The worst part of this is how alone I feel. Well, that and the issues that cause my husband's problems, and his difficulty with sex—but really, dealing with the invisibility of being a sex-starved woman has changed my life. A lot of people really don't think we exist.

Thank you! It sucks to feel like I'm invisible because the discussion about women, men, and sex is so one-sided. Men are not desire machines and women are not frigid mommies. It's complicated, just like everything else about people.

We had the best sex life in the world up to the second year of our marriage. Then it fell off and there were about two years of fighting like crazy. In 2012 he told me that he has actually had this problem with every girlfriend he's ever had after a year. Now he's in serious treatment with meds and whatnot but I think…

I thought I knew it all but I'm basically terrified to ask what is a dolphin spout?

Oh, yeah. What is that again? Having sex with other women behind your clearly devoted and very-recently-significantly-ill-from-producing-your-offspring-wife's back? Oh, right, nope, it's birth control. My bad.

For real, thank you! I love advice columns but I've seen the columnists tell women who only feel like it every two weeks to "suck it up." Girl if I was getting laid every two weeks I'd be having parties every other weekend (in my bedroom).

Once every two weeks, eh, Dean McDermott? My husband's anxiety and depression means that we haven't done it in 6 months, and before that we were on about a once-every-four-months schedule. And we don't have kids. Go fuck yourself. If you promise to be faithful to someone and work through difficult times, once every…

Minaj is gorgeous and talented but I find her an incredibly stiff performer. Maybe it's a style choice but I think her videos are really awkward to watch. She doesn't have a ton of range as an actor/model. Not trying to hate, just my two cents!

I'm surprised no one is talking about German culture's would-be-hilarious-if-it-weren't-so-offensive tone-deaf "love" of Native American culture and signifiers. Karl May (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karl_May) is the source of a lot of this weirdness. Rivka Galchen wrote about it in the NYer two years ago: http://www.n…

I'm curious about why you say Jenelle had the most potential of her season. I've had a soft spot for her as well but I've always thought Kailyn was by far the most together and promising, and she's following through on that—about to enroll at University of Delaware, happily married to a good guy, hardworking, good…

It's ridiculous that I care, but there's a misinterpretation of those Jenelle texts that every single media source is reposting and missing. When maybe-Jenelle (she claims they're fake) tells her friend they drive "just down the strip and back or something I need to get away," she's talking about the Strip in Myrtle…

Am I saying the man is a hood-wearing member of the KKK? No. But he clearly doesn't give a damn about how he comes off in interviews, and his personal brand of "humor" includes rape "jokes" and bearded-Muslim-terrorist "jokes," so I think it's fair game to remind people what this much-loved cult character actor is…

I feel you on all of this. Totally soured The World's End for me, and I'm lucky I didn't know when I saw the first two seasons of Sherlock.

Really?

Dude's a racist too: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/home/moslive/a…

Thanks for the book suggestion! I also have found Sexual Anorexia by Patrick J. Carnes useful on this topic. I keep ging, keep reading and keep hoping. I don't think he has NPD but he definitely is dealing with some difficult, heavy shit, and it's my hope that with therapy and hard work we can find our way out of this.

Thank you for this kind and quite compassionate response. Yes, we're working on it. I am not angry at him, although when we do broach the subject (i.e., I bring it up because it's been months and I feel like I'm going out of my skull) he gets so defensive and intense that I inevitably start weeping, which he sees as a…