Thanks for replying. I know it's not just on me, and he does too. He's seeing his second therapist right now — we have student health insurance and it's hard because he's allotted 12 sessions a year, and the rest have to be out of pocket. We've discussed and for the moment tabled the possibility of medication. He is…

Does anybody else live in a relationship with a man with extreme intimacy / emotional issues that manifest as a total lack of libido? I've never loved anybody like I love my husband. We have sex maybe every four months because that's the only time he wants it. I have tried everything in my power to change this, and…

You're not imagining that, but there's fashion coverage—like Jenna Sauers's thoughtful, informative, well-written pieces—and then there's ladymag pap. This could be an interesting essay about how to dress for a date. But it's not. It plays into tired tropes and stereotypes about the relationships between women and…

I'm sorry, but...what is this shit? I feel like I just read some Tatler pap. I don't mean to insult the author—this is perfectly legit ladymag stuff—but why would Jezebel run this? Not exactly deconstructing "Mr. Lawyer" or the patriarchy at large, just running around the Village asking strangers for opinions of…

Reading this makes me realize how lucky I am, because I would use all of these adjectives to describe my husband, except for "even-tempered" and any reference to sex. My husband is dashingly handsome, kind, loving, multilingual, smart, funny, you name it. But he suffers from severe anxiety and depression, and as a…

If you read my comment I never say that JHud's decision to lose weight was something that she or anything else should be ashamed of. She seems happy, so good for her. I just don't like the way WW in particular promotes the epiphany model of weight loss - i.e., one day you just wake up and make a decision and…

Meaning? She's got both in droves.

TRUE THAT. I mean, how many of these guys' moms/sisters/colleagues are overweight women? With the students especially I just feel like saying, "What if I said that about your grandma? Is that cool, if I use your chubby little sister as a shorthand for gross?" It's sad that a familial bond has to be invoked to remind…

Yeah but that's the thing these douchenozzles are responding to. Men so uncritical of their socialization and the images they've been taught to expect - i.e., tiny skinny women who are submissive and pliant - that Adele is like a slap in the face. Good.

I totally agree with the general comments about Adele's awesomeness, and the reasons why she drives the haters nuts - she's a totally unapologetic badass beauty who doesn't care about the epiphany model of body loathing (i.e., Jennifer Hudson's "One day I just woke up and realized it didn't have to be this way" WW…

Right. I remember when I learned that she had gone from 100 to 125 pounds for the role. I was a high school student and it was sofa king depressing - like, that's "chubby"?

Any idea where I can get that lip color?