I would also add one other thing.

Except I did ignore him.

I didn't. These were a series of IMs and texts over a few months. Most of the IMs I never saw because I left my window open but I was idle.

When a man disregards when I say "no" the first time, then yes that IS the problem.

You said what I've been trying to articulate. I think that's what it was. Like as soon as I saw how he responded to my rejection, I was utterly turned off by it. And I thought he was an idiot.

Why would he bully you about sex? I mean...you guys just knew each other. I don't get how he made the leap from , "Hi, I'm Joe!" to "We need to have sex now."

I am ashamed to admit that when I was in my 20s, I rebuffed a dude I really liked. I mean...I told him I liked him but he was never interested. Then I told him we'd never go out ever. That's when he wanted to go out with me.

Oh absolutely it didn't. I pointed this out. Although he understood the definition of that word, he did not think what he was doing was harassment or hell even annoying.

Wait. What? Why would sex even factor into...any of that...? I don't even...? What? Am I missing something?

It shouldn't even have to do with sex either! If a woman says no, she usually means it! I have been second guessed on:

The people objecting KNOW what the definition of rape is but when it's actually applied, things are different. They view it very different.

It happened to me once. I said, "I'm not pregnant. I guess I'm just fat, according to you." Super awkward for the other person. It was awesome.

It doesn't matter. Tell her that you don't want to be touched. Seriously. Do it once. Nicely. Then cause a scene if she keeps doing it.

Oh boy. When I get pregnant, no one better touch me. If someone does, there is going to be a whole lot of screaming. I intend to cause a scene.

When I had my very first job, I reported to two older women who had started working before the women's movement. (They were a little bitter.)

GAH! How did I forget that one? The crusty lenses are gross to look at.

Wait. Wait. Wait.

I wish I could find that SNL sketch with the bitchy GAP girls.

Can we get something similar for the dudes then? Because BOY do I have suggestions!

I wonder how much it cost that Dream Team to figure out. They do not deserve whatever they're being paid.