I have a very small extended family, only seven cousins including me on both sides of the family combined. But, my mom’s college roommate married dad’s college roommate and mom married dad! So every year, the original four women and their families get together at a really rural cabin. Have up to 30 people some years…

This Canadian journalist lays it out beautifully:

“needs” I have not seen a single case of lack of sex directly causing someone’s own demise.  Water, food, shelter, those are “needs”.  Sexxxxxy times... No.  Nobody is entitled to sex.  NOBODY.  Especially not someone who has proven multiple times they are incapable of responsibly interacting with their sex partners. …

Golden Girls is a show about a geriatric group of friends in sharing as house in Miami living the sunset of their lives after the deaths of husbands (and one divorce).

I was looking for a comment like yours, thank you.

Serious answer but also a guess: Most people who kill will only kill someone they know/have been intimate with. So the people who make these decisions don’t view them as a threat to “society” as a whole because they aren’t going to become mass murderers.

“upon review (of the numerous complaints and discussions with restless advertisers threatening action due to our blatant misogyny) we’ve decided to pretend none of this ever happened.”

“upon review, Sonmez’s Kobe Bryant tweets were not in violation of their social media policy after all.”

“Sexual needs” is such a horrible, idiotic, misogynistic term that is exclusively applied to straight men. Even and especially straight men who are violent towards women, it turns out. I’m not sure I’ve ever heard an authority figure use that term in connection with women or LGBT people.

This whole thing bugs me a bit. I get that Kobe is dead and that sucks and he is a big basket ball player and blah blah. I don’t think we can avoid feeling the lingering suspicion that comes with accusations such as this being settled out of court.

Thank you. We are not human shields for the less stigmatised members of the community.

Ugh, why can’t victims of sexual assault just talk about sexual assault at a time that’s more convenient for me as a person who’s never experienced it, such as never? Why must I be forced to consider the humanity of others? When will this nightmare end for me?

God forbid we miss out on addressing some poor dude’s sexual needs.

Right?! Misogyny, rape, and violence toward women ARE NOT BECAUSE OF FUCKING BLUE BALLS. Getting laid doesn’t magically turn men into nice guys! IT IS NOT SEX WORKERS’ JOBS TO MAGICALLY DEFUSE DANGEROUS MEN. Jesus fucking Christ.

The parole officer wrote it as if women in general are some kind of prescription for fixing men. Sickening   

Death threats, for the offense of reminding people of their bald hypocrisy when it came to idolizing Bryant.

Its politics... it always comes back to politics. I don’t want to get into the specifics of it but Canadian Criminal Justice is VERY oriented towards rehabilitation even if that person may not be ready. Very few people, even some of the worst murders get actual life in prison, regardless of how violent the crime. To…

Ya, that isn’t a solution. An incels problem is not the lack of sex that is a symptom, an incels problem is the profound self-loathing and misplaced anger that drives people away from them. Making them pay for sex wont do anything, it might even make it worse. The only way to help an incel move on is to admit to…

Honestly, this is also why I get angry when people suggest that the way to deal with incels is to send them to sex workers. Sex workers are human beings performing a service; we shouldn’t condone having misogynists anywhere near them. Can you imagine if men did this to other service workers too? Would you take your…

you are able to efficiently evaluate your needs and expectations towards women,”