Kat, for what it's worth, this book actually has a 2nd edition that came out in 2012 and is significantly shorter than the first edition. I haven't had a chance to read either one so I'm not sure if the "male lesbian" stuff made the cut the second go-round, but I thought that was worth pointing out.

I might not be that different. I've never identified as a "male lesbian" and I think there's a lot to criticize about that concept (though I may not agree with all of Kat Callahan's criticisms). What interests me about these men is that they are not just straight guys with social anxiety. They have specific attitudes…

I see what you're saying but I don't think that's exactly right.

I'm not sure why you see that as misogyny. It seems it could just as easily be labeled as misandry. If liking men is so bad, maybe that's because men are really shitty.

I agree that there is a lot wrong with the concept of "male lesbian." However, metrosexual does not mean the same thing, and I doubt we had the word metrosexual in 1987 anyway.

Michael Sam was the defensive player of the year in the SEC, college football's best conference. By that logic he should be able to make an NFL roster. His on-the-field problems are (1) a disappointing NFL combine performance and (2) he is a "tweener" - viewed by many as too small for defensive end (his college…

So disclaimer, I haven't actually read Gilmartin's book. That said, I've read a few things about it and I think the "love shy" label describes me. Ask me anything. (There used to be a wikipedia article on love-shyness, but it got deleted a while back, probably because not many other psychologists have pursued this…

Don't worry about it, you're cool. I hear what you're saying and I will be very careful about how I use that term in the future. All I ask is you try to remember that just because I or someone else might use (or have used) that name for the fictional character, doesn't mean we would consider it acceptable to call a…

I'm not saying the fact she's in prison and we don't know her diagnosis makes it OK. I'm saying at this point, most of Suzanne's story is untold. Most people (both the other fictional inmates and the audience) know her primarily as Crazy Eyes. At the end of Season 2, hopefully that won't be the case.

I can understand…

Viewers still don't know the reason Suzanne is locked up or the nature of her mental health issues. There is a lot more to her story still to be told. The scene where we learn she doesn't understand what her name means is a very powerful one. However, she is still a fictional character. Accusing people who continue to…

Well if I recall correctly Suzanne found out what her nickname meant relatively late in season 1, so maybe that will be addressed further in season 2. Because these are fictional characters, I just don't think it's relevant. They're going to use the name that the greatest number of fans will recognize. That doesn't…

I just want to point out that Suzanne isn't the only character referred to here by her nickname rather than her "real" name. There's also Pennsatucky (Tiffany Doggett), Big Boo (Carrie Black), Flaca (Marisol Gonzales), and Taystee (Tasha Jefferson). I think they were using the names they expected the greatest number…

"My two cents" - so, in other words, "my knee-jerk reaction."

Well that's not as bad then. But that still leaves about $800,000 out of $2 million that didn't go to charitable purposes. That is not a good percentage for a charity.

I teared up a little bit reading this.

Harry Potter is not a mystery novel. You're not *supposed* to know exactly who Voldemort is at the end of the first book. That's not the point of the series at all.

And better for storing stuff I needed to bring to a second date.

If you live in NYC I can virtually guarantee you've been around a trans person at some point but you just didn't realize it. I know two trans people from the years I spent living in Oklahoma (albeit in Norman, which is a semi-liberal college town).

I think a lot of things are fascinating about trans identities, the…

What would you give to charity, and which ones?

Maybe they're supposed to be totally random, but they shouldn't be. A 1-game playoff after a 162-game regular season just doesn't make any sense at all. There's already a lot of random variability in a best-of-5 series just because every starting pitcher's different. Staking the entire season on one game where 3 or 4…