Not. Your. Fault.

The other day he suddenly cheek kissed me without asking and then complained that it wasn’t a ‘good enough’ kiss.

Wow. I never knew that! Don’t know if it makes him a worse asshole than he already is... but, seeing as how it was a major milestone back in the day to get bathroom stalls for those like him... his protests seem worse now tbh.

God how awful, I’m sorry you have to put up with that. There was a guy at my last office who touched me a lot, but always stayed just on the side of the line where no one would have accused him of anything except being overly friendly. It’s not an accident that these guys find the razor’s edge of publicly-acceptable…

Ew. “No” does not mean, “Convince me.”

“The other day he suddenly cheek kissed me without asking and then complained that it wasn’t a ‘good enough’ kiss.”

Texas’s most important value is men and women pooping in separate facilities?

There is plenty you can do hun. Don’t let anyone tell you (including yourself) that you have no control over what happens to your body.

File assault charges next time he kisses you - maybe he’ll get the idea?

Wait...whaaaaat? He CHOKED you???

I know you aren’t soliciting advice but:

You need to taze and mace his ass then he will get it.

Start keeping a record of the creepy things he does, in case things escalate. He might not be crossing the line of what your company sees as harassment yet, but if he ever does, you'll have proof that it isn't a one-off event.

If I may: is there any way you can get this creep out of your life? Not understanding ‘no’ and just being a persistent texting stalker creep is one thing, but actually placing any part of his creepy physical person on you...nopenopenope. Not okay.

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Dude I am so sorry you’re experiencing…

The other day he suddenly cheek kissed me without asking and then complained that it wasn’t a ‘good enough’ kiss.

did you get him fired after that (I hope so!)

It’s sad that the bar is set so, so low. “Hey, at least none of them have tried to kill me?!” But I totally get it.

But it’s that 28th time that juuuuuuust might seal the deal.

Ask politely. If they say yes, great. If they say no, apologize for having disturbed them, you meant no harm, and walk away.

I am a woman who will show attraction to/occasionally ask out a dude, especially on line. That means I get rejected sometimes. And sometimes it sucks, but whatevs, you move on!