Yup, trying to shut down a women in a place of power by reminding her of how shameful and wrong her womanness is. Her most grievous crime being that she was once a teenage girl (that dared to have breasts).

I hate that I can't tell if this is a joke or not.

um, taking of my bra is the best part of the day.

Aw, that's a bummer. I have a birthday right at the beginning of the school year so I'm often around new people which makes for weird or nonexistant acknowledgement. Last year I was also in Spain, in a tiny town where I had no friends, and the few people I told totally forgot. Maybe just let your boyfriend know that…

This was an open thread.

I'm very sorry that happened to your sister, but it sure feels like you read as far as "he's not a citizen" and let the prejudice kick in. 'Odds are' if you had bothered to read any more you'd know that marriage is absolutely no where on the table for us right now.

Aw man, I don't remember the last time someone told me they thought I had my shit together. I feel like my shit is perpetually very not together. That means a lot to me :)

Hmm, I will have to consider that, since drunk expat writer is kind of what I aspire to...

Thanks for your input. I spent last year living in Spain, so I know all the great and crushingly lonely parts of that experience, and that was in a country I was more familiar with. Plus I 'pass' pretty easily as European, which makes life easier. In South America, even though there are plenty of European-looking,…

Wow, way uncalled for and kind of bigoted. Thanks for that, super helpful.

I really hope (and I think it's very possible) he can get a scholarship to grad school in the States. He's known for a while that I'd rather not move to a foreign country at this point in time, I think he's just a little upset that I won't consider it and I'm a little upset that he brought it up again when he knows…

I know, I hate myself for complaining about the chance to move to another country. I think boyfriend is upset that I don't want to because I spent last year in Spain. Part of what I love about him is that he has a whole new country to share with me. I just ultimately came back because as much as I loved it, I didn't…

Ugh, that's the tough question. I want to move out of my parents house, basically is the bottom line. In the long run, I want to go to grad school and be writer, although trust me, i have no illusions about that being my only job. I don't have a real clear idea of where geographically I'd like to go. So we originally…

We're both in our 20's, have been together for almost a year and a half, although mostly long distance. His parents have been in the States longer than he has, his mom has an HB-1 visa and so she has to apply for a green card in the next year I think, so there's a slim chance he could tag on to that process, but no…

Boyfriend and I have been talking about moving in together for a while now. We both want to but we both live with our parents and have no job prospects. (He is not a citizen so his options are far more limited, it's not a matter of being unwilling to work in whatever it takes, he can't) We had a long tough discussion…

Boyfriend and I have been talking about moving in together for a while now. We both want to but we both live with our parents and have no job prospects. (He is not a citizen so his options are far more limited, it's not a matter of being unwilling to work in whatever it takes, he can't) We had a long tough discussion…

I don't know if you'll glean any useful advice out of this I-feel-you, so I apologize if it's not helpful. My freshman year of college I was in the same situation. Had one boyfriend, dumped him, was at a women's college and terrified I'd graduate college just as inept and inexperienced as my high school self.…

This is one of best/fucking worst ones I've read, holy shit!

Goddammit. My Dad built our house 25ish years ago and today he is repairing the roof. Frustrated with the constant problems he came in and said, "don't worry, when we die we won't leave you this house, we wouldn't do that to you." Having been reading these stories all morning, I 'joked' that I might need a house…

I'm embarrassed how long it took be to catch on. Well played.