Yay to Chris! He's worked so hard to get where he is, and he's a good friend since college. I was so worried when he got his own show that people wouldn't like him, but he seems to be pretty universally loved by liberals. I'm so proud of him

It's kind of weird, because I've had an extraordinarily fucked up life, but I don't have any triggers... Everyone is different, I suppose?

Okay, thanks for explaining—I think I understand now that it doesn't necessarily trigger behavior, but something like a surge in emotions (which could, of course, facilitate unwanted behavior). And the response is knee-jerk, rather than reflective. So you get to know what triggers these emotional surges and try to…

Thank you for explaining, I understand better now.

I'm sorry, but when you guys call her "triggering," what exactly does that mean? Like when you encounter her on the internet you suddenly have the desire to do drugs or have risky sex? I'm just curious. I don't think I've ever been triggered by anyone before.

Thanks for your comment, which explains it much better than mine, which was elliptical.

I think they are *both* bad at sex.

This woman is the most manipulative mother in law ever. She's empty-nesting and going off the rails...

I guess I stand corrected, then!??

This approach is very post-WWII "Vergangenheitsbewaltigung" Germany. Makes perfect sense for Berliners, and is probably the most compelling and effective approach to the issue, within the museum context. They forgot to recall that most of their visitors are tourists, though; hence the uproar. That said, as a Jewish…

Thanks SO much for this information, I really appreciate it.

Seriously, why does my allergist not know about this?!?

So so true. I have a similar situation with an immediate family member, who has dragged all of us into debt and major suffering. They feel entitled to your enabling—and that is precisely the dynamic that must be broken. Sadly, ejecting that person from your life, even if they are on the street and doing hard drugs…

whoa, really? I know we are all differently wired and stuff, but my informal polling of friends has yielded the knowledge that jackhammering isn't as fun as men think it is for us. At any rate, good for you!

Not to mention, she probably sucked (still sucks?) in bed too, if what she primarily wants out of it is some sort of ever-elusive self-affirmation.

See my comment above—jackhammering feels like... jackhammering. It doesn't feel good at all.

Evidently, what pays these days is sustained, manic self indulgence (someone who just sits there and muses on and writes about their life obsessively for years, hits on some angle of their life that others may relate to, writes and writes and becomes more and more insufferable ). Maybe adderall helps, too?

I know, I was trotting on my moral high horse the entire way through, until I dismounted with pity at the end. I mean, she's entirely candid about her desperation, but I don't have much sympathy for self-indulgent desperate types.

Courtesy notice to men confused by this article: 'jackhammering' is exactly what we don't want you to do in bed. It's boring and desensitizing (unless we really are about to come). I always have to retrain my sexual partners ever so slightly to use pressure and, um, depth, in order to make me come.

Ugh, I basically had a wanton "Spring Breakers"-style youth replete with guns, drugs, sex, dancing that simulated sex, and majorly slutty outfits (my favorite store at age 15 was called "Retail Slut") circulating all around me. I remained completely sober, virginal, and chaste until I fell in love with an awesome…