Yes, we’re very aware of the complexity.

That is so. A VFW is a safe space, and a really valid one. There’s an initiative here to revitalise it’s use, as it was very effective for prior veterans, and current vets aren’t using them as well as they were one utilised. So, most definitely. I think it’s a vital community resource.

To which I referred to as “absurd extremes.”

Our group, in particular, focuses on people who identify as femme — so cis-gendered women, trans women, and anyone who identifies as femme.

The bottom line is — you don’t understand what a ‘safe space’ is or designed for, so you think it means something it doesn’t, and just reasserting that meaning (the absurd one) doesn’t make your meaning ‘correct.’

Your statement demonstrates a clear misunderstanding of the use and construct of “safe spaces” and then goes on to give the very reason why they exist (hint: to give people space to process their experiences with trained and/or like-minded and/or like-experienced individuals who can facilitate that processing).

Agreed.

that’s all super gross.

I’ve put them at emotional 15 ft pole length for the last 6 years.

Thank you for this information. It’s important to pay attention — and I”ll pass this along in my channels, too. The resistance needs to be global.

Sounds like a lot of stress!

So, my little patio herb garden has been doing really well, and I had to learn how to handle some buggies, which I did with some good castile soap and water which was nice! woohoo! So, fewer bugs today, anyway and I’m keeping track.

I’m sorry that you’re going through this because it’s *really* hard and everyone who struggles with infertility (i haven’t, and choose to have a single child) says that it is really hard. There’s a large variety of emotions.

I agree with those who say “try the roommate first.” You can do that until the lease ends, then go find a spot.

I’m sorry that you lost your dog, because that is so hard. We always have such special relationships with our animal-family members, and I think their losses are far more keenly felt than most people give credit.

I am hoping that these are two separate groups, and your potential employers aren’t asking about your dating life because that’s illegal and what not.

and here my MIL tried t convince me that it was a character flaw that I didn’t “collect” anything. I told her that I collect modern jewellery, particularly rings and necklaces, but she didn’t bite. LOL

It really is a “pick your battles” approach. And from there, I”m a natural debater and good at persuasion and interested in the long-game, so that helps.

Well, read the other responses in the thread; you’ll get more context.

Sorry, I meant to clarify (I just woke up) that DACA does the work visa, and then that could lead o permanent residence/citizenship (with the dream act, which the other links asserted). But I used “paperwork in order” in a general way, which partly got him on-side to read the links. And now, we’re having a few more…