I’m so very sorry that you’re going through this. If you can, look up “death midwife” or “death doula.” These are generally women (sometimes men) who can guide you through this process in a way that’s personal, grounded, and completely supportive of you. It can definitely help.

How else is he to demonstrate to others that these were Quality Women as opposed to your common, garden-variety slut (all other women not somehow connected to a Male of Consequence)?

my SIL does this. drives me batty.

It’s about creating insider/outsider clubs. I find it a lot in yoga studios as well. Not so much the branding and whatever, but this ‘light cult’ like behaviour where some people are ‘in’ and others are ‘out.’ And how ‘in’ feels.

Yeah. I have no idea. I wouldn’t be able to join, though. . . cuz nothing that I have is that embarrassing.

Read the other follow ups for more context.

No, as I explained below — “it is what it is” is about this is about expecting more disappointments from people whom we believe/categorize as “good guys” because of the nature of rape culture means that it’s likely that the majority of people/men have participated in it in some capacity.

The what’s in it for you side is: Amazing Success in all aspects of your life plus there’s a whole side about Real Action for Political Change (anti-Trump stuff, pro-woman language stuff).

Yeah, no. Again, progressives seem to be able to maintain nuance better than others. The nuance being that it’s both-and.

I’m sorry that you’re going through this. I hope you find a way to balance your needs soon!

my minimalist group is all about these concepts. how do you do this ‘minimally?’ and I’m like — everything is useful? beautiful pottery for your hot chocolate; we dont’ have a fireplace, but we do bees wax candles in winter (all over, in washed out, de-labeled peanut butter jars!); lots of warm blankets (i keep mine…

Doing *amazingly* well all around. Overall, just ridiculously happy and fulfilled. Weird, right?

Hi Jarp!

as a person trained as a lawyer who doesn’t practice, we often feel that it never hurts to talk to a lawyer. :)

Well, I do everything that I can and hope for the best. Sounds like you’re doing all the right things. I do hope you get it!

the crying is almost as awesome as the testosterone rages. :) congratulations on your pregnancy!

your best bet would be to go to a local employment lawyer and find out what your options are.

Congratulations on your 5 yrs sober! Great work!

Yeah, the ‘stage parent’ thing is really gross, imo. It’s one thing to support your kid’s passion, it’s another thing to exploit it. Feldman, Lohan, and many others besides have been truly exploited by their parents and the industry. It’s truly sick.

My son isn’t in the industry, as I wrote. He’s in acting classes and small children plays (the school play, the play that his acting class puts on at the end of each term), and I’m present for all of it (classes and rehearsals). None of it is professional theatre, because I don’t have time to manage that for his…