I agree with the others. This is way more work than benefit for you, and your needs aren’t getting met. Time to move on and make new friends. :)

I’m so glad that you found a good place close by for her. It is the right decision, and what you’re going through is really difficult. It’s ok to cry and grieve, because that’s exactly what you’re going through.

I also agree with this. Get some help for codependence.

We stopped using it when he was about a year old. But I’m not that into Misery. Heard lots about it.

1.5 months of living is good — the next question is that if you split the difference, where would it have the bigger impact. would you reach 3 mo emergency fund quickly or would you reach debt free quickly?

IDK if that’s just a function of being who they are, though, or what.

I’m sorry that you went through this.

pretty much. started that last year, so. :)

that’s a cute dress. babies are really funny when they’re grumpy. or mine was anyway.

Not having work is the worst, to be honest, and I know how that goes. I think my priority would be on whatever finds income, because not having that is really, truly the worst.

It’s a long slog. My husband is a writer also. He has been a technical/marketing/financial writer for about 20 years now — that’s the day job that allows us to live, travel, and so on — while also working on his passion projects for all this time.

If/when you find someone who understands curly hair, you pay for that business.

My first question would be how much you have saved (I think we’re talking about emergency savings, not investments or other kinds of savings), and then, based on that answer (i.e., enough to move again, or 1 month back up, etc), I would make a recommendation.

If you can put gifs, you could lead in with this awesome cat gif. :)

I’m in NZ, so nothing. I’m paying the bills this week. how cool is that? :)

Violet was my great grandmother’s name, and I told my husband that it’s automatically short listed for a girl no matter what. Then, we decided that the name we picked was actually able to be used either way and was our top pick, so Violet got bumped.

When my baby was a demanding little tyke — which they all are — I also called him “sir” and also “Mr. Man.” which of course is ludicrous and makes zero sense, but whenever he was putting up a right fuss over something, I’d say “Yes, sir, we are getting to that right away, aren’t we, Mr. Man?” Honestly, ya never know…

One of my good friends since Uni is named Mister. His brother iss named Doctor. Mister, I like a lot (as a name), but Doctor less so. When I met his mother, I asked how she came to their names, and she said that she wanted people to respect her sons, and they’d always respect them calling them their names. I thought…

Look, truth is . . . if they, or their parents, grandparents, and other extended family had just lead good, godly lives with prayer and church and all that, then they would NOT have these problems that were given to them through sins of the people to whom they are related.

Good lord. Not only is that hurtful, it’s also ‘un-American.’