But nobody is going to question the subjective final decisions of the casting director, you can’t just erect the barrier in the advertising with its being an EEO violation. And who knows, maybe they actually like a random cracker who brings something to a particular role.

I’d be more open to that criticism if I had actually jumped in to derail a conversation in progress. I made a comment, and others showed up to school me on the inadequacies of my short historical perspective. Did my comment in any way deny a modern POC perspective? It did not. Did I address post-colonization? No.

Yeah, when I was living in the Philippines last year it was almost impossible to find skin products that didn’t claim to be whitening. I just wanted a straight moisturiser!! In any case, they treat it like we treat tanning products. They don’t want to be Caucasian, it’s linked to a long history of a tan being linked…

I’m kind of amazed that people agree that there is a historical aspect of a preference for paler skin that has nothing to do with white people, and then crap all over me for not expanding my comments to address White Superiority, plastic surgery, modern media representations, etcetera.

Hey, Bingo. I didn’t write an essay addressing all areas of beauty culture pre- and post-colonialism. GTFO with your “conveniently ignores” stuff. Google “phoenix eyes” and “peach blossom eyes”. People getting eyelid surgeries are not trying to look more like white people, they’re aiming for an Asian ideal of beauty.…

Hey. Nowhere did I say “this has nothing to do with white people and colonization” and it’s not cool of you to suggest I did. What I offered was a historical perspective that is independent of colonization, and in fact, predates European contact. People wanted to look pale before they knew that there were folks that…

There’s a big difference between that and claiming that the dark skin of South Indians owes to mixing with Ethiopians. The Dravidian peoples who built the Indus River civilization were considerably darker than the Indo-Aryan invaders who pushed them south into the Deccan in the 1000s BC.

In many countries, historically, paler skin was associated with ruling classes and wealth because a fair complexion indicated a life not spent toiling outside in the fields. Asian ladies in my town who shield themselves from the sun with umbrellas are not trying to look like white people, they’re trying to avoid a…

I’m adopted (Indian) and my dad is Caucasian. At times, when we’re out, people have assumed I’m his wife. Good god, no, hork, hork, yuck, yuck. Even though my dad is totes adorbs, in a Tom Brokaw-like way.

It happened to me when I was in high school — only it was my MOM who was mistaken for my SO. To be fair, she was being weird and “it’s a mother/daughter day! Let’s hold hands!” And THEN she was so flattered, because that meant she looked young.

Yes, and the worst part is that I was in high school at the time. It was one of my dad’s patients, and after he introduced me as his daughter the guy was like, “Oh, I thought maybe you were...*wink” and I think I literally dropped over dead

No, but it has happened to a guy friend of mine. He and his stepdad went to a fancy resort after his mom died and said that at first they didn’t understand why people looked sort of relieved when they introduced themselves as dad and son, but then they realized people probably thought it was a sugar daddy & rent…

My dad is a young dad and my one sister who looks nothing like him (he’s light skinned with dark hair and eyes, she has olive skin with blonde hair and light eyes) always gets mistaken for his wife. She’s 28 and he’s 50, so I guess some people think that’s an acceptable age difference? It’s happened more than once…

Okay, real question time, because this has always been one of my worst nightmares: has anyone been out in public with their dad/step-dad and had someone assume you were their SO instead of their child?

My wife and her sister have a peeps thing, never understood it. Just saw this posted recently:

Wait, is that Peep porn in the opening photo? How about a NSFP (Not Safe for Peeps) tag?

It’s simply astounding how the GOP went from 16 (I think?) very different candidates and have ended up with 3 that nobody is eager to nominate.

I dunno, I don’t personally hate his wife, but going for some foreign-born, heavily accented model screams “MRA who can’t stand ‘independent’ American women” to me.

i mean theyve cared for her for six years. i think it’s jumping the gun a bit to assume they just want her as an object

So I’m just going to assume that nothing is going to get out of the grays for this one?