Me too. I have this lovely circle of taekwondo friends and outside of that I'm a total loser.

It's so absurdly fucked up. Do some people just never grow out of the 3-year-old "if I can't have it, no one can" mindset?

How could you NOT want that?

Right? The first time I read it I was like, "oh, that's an interesting tongue-in-cheek statement about stereotypes about Africa and how the world don't seem to care as much about the plight of black people than white people." But then it became obvious that the tweet wasn't tongue-in-cheek.

Me too! They are the shit and I absolutely adore them.

Wait, Birkenstocks are ugly??

Agreed. It's silly to pretend that the genders don't face their own subset of problems in society. But if we could be supportive of one another instead of turning it into a men vs. women or Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, etc etc-gender war thing I'm convinced that we would all be much happier, fairer…

I want that sweater so badly. With the beaver scarf. Does that make me a hipster lumberjack?

I think I'll be the 5th or so person to chime in and say JESUS CHRIST ON A BICYCLE that is the best, most clever and beautiful response in the history of clever comebacks. I'm just so smitten.

Well, right now we have an old(ish kinda) black guy and we've never had a white woman. So....I'm not sure what your point is.

And I love that the reporter didn't ask about her hair! Progress!

Yes! Sometimes I'm upset and I'm just crying or snapping at Mr.Infinium and I need to stop and think about why I'm actually mad. If I don't stop and use my brain for a minute the argument will go on forever and everyone will feel like shit and nothing will have been accomplished. Once I get to the heard of what has…

That sounds like a fundamental issue of passive-aggressive bullshittery. If one partner lies to the other about what their needs are and then flips shit when said needs aren't met, there is a serious problem.

I was speaking generally. Both partners have to be on the same page; if one of them is going to be a brat, it doesn't work.

Me. fucking. too.

That's because it doesn't actually resolve the conflict and she knows that you don't actually believe that she's right. Conflict resolution means being able to discuss the disagreement, not fall into stereotypical "wife is always right lolz" gender traps.

Indeed. It's totally ok to fight. But don't call names, don't throw personal insults, and above all, recognize when you are wrong (because probably 50% of the time you are, I promise). I try to avoid raising voices as well, because raised voices only lead to raised tensions and then personal insults. If you can…

I've read a couple great articles about how Beyonce's feminism is more representative of black feminism (but being that I am not black I can't really say whether she's representative or not). It's been a good starting point, but a lot of Jez commentors have gotten bogged down in the "IS THE A FEMINIST I'M PRETTY SURE…

So much feelings. This is so sad :(

We can discuss how black feminism differs from mainstream feminism and why a lot of black feminists don't want to associate with mainstream feminism. But trying to decide whether Beyonce is allowed to call herself a feminist is what's REALLY inane.