Thank you. I think that it is important to consider that when someone is “wrong” we should consider why that person is wrong and still be empathetic. Perhaps that “wrongness” comes from weird socialization.

I really think that a man who does not use his penis and his female partner orgasms through his use of kissing, fingers, and oral, would not be considered “good in bed.” Something is missing, a key component to be considered “good in bed.”

Yeah, well I was really shocked that the orgasm rate for heterosexual women is 65% while the orgasm rate for bisexual women is barely higher.

I just wasn’t that thrilled by this article’s opening line, “there is no excuse for heterosexual men to be bad at sex.” The article is mainly about fingering, oral sex, and kissing, which are pretty easy, but I really doubt that a man who is good at those, and generally bad at vaginal sex would be considered “good at…

Sure, but by and large, heterosexual vaginal sex is more demanding for the man. And by and large, sucking dick is more demanding than eating pussy. Not always, but by and large. Also, the man does have to get and maintain an erection, which is not always the easiest thing.

Yeah,I guess. Doesn’t everyone feel bad when anyone is mean? People often say that men have fragile egos, as if women do not. Yet, women are well known to have self esteem issues, and there are certain topics which men are told to be sensitive regarding women. It makes me wonder why it is that men are seen as the…

Believe it, or not, whatever.

I think that a lot of guys would like to have a very long blowjob, but they come in 30 seconds due to inexperience.

I don’t know what’s going on here. I am not sure if you’re not being willfully obtuse. Yeah, each woman has a different way of getting her jollies. But men have more responsibilities in heterosexual vaginal sex. If you don’t agree, whatever, but I am done answering “how so?”

Well, the OP in this thread says she tells men when “they don’t get the job done.” If she is literally saying that, uh, I think she really should switch to the more positive, “ok, so how about some oral or finger action?”

And is she “good” at sex? The dead fish analogy is not my creation, it has been around for a long time. It is unlikely that this is the first time you have heard it. Many women have the attitude of “my presence is my present.”

Was he able to maintain an erection during other acts, like could you suck or jerk him off?

Fine, the woman can just lie there motionless like a dead fish. The man will still likely orgasm, she will likely not, but they both “had sex.”

Sure, fine. And I fear I am reaching an age, or perhaps past the age where women will be patient with me.

Yeah, I pretty much agree. Which is why I disagree with this article’s first sentence, “There is no excuse for a heterosexual man to be bad at sex.” I think that such a guy is probably eager and willing to improve, and I hope that any woman he is with gives him some time.

Yeah, you should say, “I want your sperm,” that would probably indeed be hilarious. I mentioned it because I thought it would be a truly bizarre thing to do. Clearly, it was not worth mentioning since I’m getting so much trouble for it. But, if it leads to a hilarious night for you, good on you.

Oral sex: Yeah, I was quoting Dan Savage on that one. I generally agree, but I do have some reservations.

ok, you dumped one guy for being a dud in bed, so he is a one-and-done.

Yeah, I mentioned the Cosmo tip as an example of something ridiculous. I didn’t think anybody was reading down here. Clearly, that post was not worth writing.

Well, I said in my first sentence that heterosexual sex is harder for men than for women. And I guess, I would have to say that a dead body would be better at fellatio than cunninglingus.