James is/was an exception here, in terms of producing original content and brand recognition. And yes, women get more money – for as long as they can work. Which is a smaller window for women.

Right? It’s one thing to give a man permission to explore these things, to want a guy who comes to them slowly so there’s absolutely no pressure on his end – I totally get that – but to allow for absolutely no enjoyment on his part? And to think that doesn’t speak to some misogyny at all (assuming no agency on the…

Kind of grossed out by these ‘Well what did you expect from a guy who makes that kind of porn’ reactions. They’re pretty standard victim shaming, even if you seem to be siding against the abuser. Because implicit in this reaction is that you have good judgment, other women do not, and this is what will protect you…

So women should fantasize about it but never, ever play it out, or only bring a man to it kicking and screaming? What’s that, the Swedish model of roleplay? It’s ridiculous. Yes, he ocntext is different, and I think a man into it should reflect as much or more as a woman, but to believe that one half of this is a-ok…