I’ve mentioned this here before, but, I’ll say it again. I left my husband so I could sleep with other people. We were in therapy for two years and after all that, I still wanted to sleep with other people more than I wanted to sleep with him. In fact, I didn’t want to be physical with him at all anymore. And even…

That’s what I was thinking—probably, that same 90% would say it’s morally wrong to lie to the person you promised to share your life with.

Oh this is such bullshit. Monogamy is fully voluntary. We live in a time and place in which committing to another person is NOT compulsory, and yet cheating remains rampant. There is no shame in honest non-monogamy; however, I fully support shaming any jerk who promises monogamy and then goes on to screw other people…

This show is fucking garbage. Normalizing affairs and making them look ok IS NOT OK. They are hurtful and traumatic. Yeah some relationships are complicated but if BOTH partners agree with the extra person(s) involved thats ok because BOTH consented. BUT when one does it behind your back and says nothing THAT IS NOT…

This is faulty logic. Murders have always been a thing but it doesn’t mean you should do it. If you’re bored after 30 years of marriage and your partner isn’t ok with you getting tail on the side or has an expectation of monogamy, then get a divorce instead of thinking your own needs are higher than everyone else.

“compulsory monogamy” seems just as coercive and damaging—and unethical—as “compulsory heterosexuality.”

This is what happens when people badly want to normalize something in order to shift guilt off themselves. Next we will hear from evolutionary psychology pundits on how it is natural for people (men) to cheat due to wanting to lay their seed in the wombs of as many women as possible.

I have a problem with your logic here. Were you born queer? Having an affair is in no way similar to being gay. If your preference is for persons of the same sex, great. But that doesn’t make it ok to cheat on someone you are sharing your life with. If you can’t deal with being monogamous, get a divorce. It is the…

Of course monogamy has its problems (although I’m sure it works great for some, just as it’s the norm for some animal species), but the thing is, if you swear to be faithful to someone and then cheat on them, that’s not okay. If you feel like monogamy is not for you, maybe it’s time to discuss an open relationship.

It’s not the sex or the external romantic affairs that’s wrong — it’s the lying and deceat to the person who is your partner, the person you made vows to. It is in no way okay to cheat. If you want someone else, tell the one you’re with. That’s the right thing to do.