Damn, Asian male feminists are so rare! Almost like unicorns, lol. I HATE the "model minority" label as well. It's just another way to oppress us by making all minorities fight each other for that small slice of power. In a way, I feel like it is our parents, grandparents and basically the older generations that hold…

Yeah, I know the feeling. I mentioned upwards in the thread that I used to be chubbier and pretty tall so Asian guys never gave me the time of day. Now, that I've lost the weight, it'd a different story. But funnily, most of my girlfriends are all Asian girls who don't fit the stereotype either (not dainty nor skinny…

Yeah, you just can't win. Though I totally feel you. I used to be chubbier and pretty tall, and I was totally ignored by Asian guys (funnily, I attracted lots of Hispanic/black guys instead) and now that I've lost most of the weight, I get so much more attention from Asian guys. I am also very liberal and outspoken…

Nope. Brooklyn born and bred and I've never seen that combo either!

Yeah I see it way too often, Asian women (and men) who only prefer to date white people because it conveys a kind of social status and also white privilege. On the one hand, we have been somewhat brainwashed by the media to believe that white people are the most physically desirable (tell me how often POC are often…

I think we are just conditioned to think that because of the stereotypes in the media. I mean, how often are Asian women sexually objectified in movies and tv shows while the Asian man is portrayed as either a nerdy, awkward kid or the butt of a joke? Being Asian myself, I am hypersensitive to these stereotypical…

It's nice to meet an Asian guy who reads feminist websites as well! I think I may be responding to a different post of yours but oh wells.

That's really messed up as it means that it is a rejection of her own looks as well (Doesn't she look Asian as well?). People can sense when you hold that kind of self-hatred. It's like black men who are willing to date women of any race except for black women.

But I also wanted to add that if you're an Asian women and you're fat, not as conventionally attractive, or very outspoken, Asian men will ignore the hell out of you. That's why these women end up being drawn to men of other races.

Yes, I see this all the time! I always assume you must have a lot of baggage and self-hate going on if you refuse to date someone who is the same race or ethnicity as you.

As an Asian woman, I can attest that this chart is so sad and yet so accurate. I don't think like this but I see it among my friends and social networks, especially among American-born Asians.

This. Whenever I come across people who refuse to date someone of the same race/ethnicity as them, I usually assume they must have a lot of baggage going on.

Yeah, you are probably right.

But don't you think your preferences were shaped based on stereotypes you internalized from the media and hollywood? Nothing exists in a vacuum and I highly doubt everyone you've ever met conformed nicely to your preconceived notions for that particular race.

Do you see them as exotic because they are so underrepresented in the media and entertainment? Or is it based on some preconceived notions you already have?

As someone who has been on OkCupid for more than half a year, I've gathered that a lot of people join these dating sites with the sole intention of meeting someone of a different race or ethnic background. Most of the time, we are already surrounded by people of our own race or ethnicity due to family, social circles,…

See, the thing is, I don't really think it's confidence that allows men to regularly approach women and start a conversation. I think that it just means the guy views you as a regular HUMAN BEING. After all, if you are able to communicate with people on a regular basis whether it's at work, school, etc without working…

I agree that the burden is still mostly placed on men to approach women when it comes to dating in our society. I've known guys who go out of their way and try too hard (always thinking of some new way) to pick up girls and I know guys who go about it naturally, whether it's striking a conversation in an appropriate…

Or you know, you could just be a decent human being. That gets women too.

Yes, and you can add Kate Hudson to that list too. I frankly cannot discern the difference between them. This is probably why I canceled all my magazine subscriptions a looong time ago.