Separate bedrooms are a “must have” for us! Mr. BallofStress snores like a fucking steam engine and I have terrible bouts of insomnia. We’ve kept it this way since we got together 15 years ago and it’s honestly the best decision we’ve ever made.

My favourite time of the week is weekend mornings when I have given Pete his breakfast and gone back to bed and he snuggles next to me.

Take it from an old. The only way to guarantee that a woman gets a good sleep in a long marriage is separate bedrooms. Bed should be the last place for sex. Reserve that for the bathroom, the washing machine, you know...... anywhere but the bed. And if you must, a well timed morning cuddle keeps the intimacy alive.…

Every WOMAN is one bad night away from being beat, raped or murdered. Especially if you’re single. In fact, sex workers are often safer because their clients are screened well.

I’m 48 years old, and I still mourn my first girlfriend who died when I was 15. People are assholes for giving her anything other than love and support over this. If they’re not willing to do that, then they should just shut the hell up and stay off her feed. Loss and sadness are whatever they are to her, and it’s not…

When you are in mourning, you do not know when you have overstepped some invisible boundary set by someone to say your sadness is Too Much, that you are just looking for sympathy, that you are asking for attention, that perhaps, you have not lost as much as another person whose loss is much more tragic and you do not…

Here is a thing I wrote yesterday about this very article:

Not in the least bit, I’m glad these people are sharing their stories. It’s all about making yourself better and correcting mistakes. Not taking offense to it at all, I came across naive and didn’t think of the results of my actions. Not in the least bit bothered. If anything I’m happy that I’m getting feed back…

I’m just going to gently second what mocena said. I’ve been with a guy who hit walls and threw things when he was angry. The first thought it my mind was not reassurance that he knew putting hands on someone else was wrong, it was that putting hands on someone else (me!) would/could be next. It was terrifying. Lashing…

this ^^^^^ i had a boyfriend who never hit me and i dont think he would have but he would often punch walls and throw/break things when he was upset with me and i was in the room and it is emotional abuse and it is scary as fuck.

Listen, I don’t know you and I don’t know when you are punching walls, but I want you to know this: even if YOU “know” you’d never hit a woman, if you are punching walls when you get angry and your partner is in the room, you are being fucking abusive and scary.  My ex used to punch walls when he got angry with me and…

I’m not a lawyer, or of a lawyerly frame of mind. If my partner bated me into an argument about something I felt strongly about and then proposed to me with the words 'that should shut you up'? I'd just see red flags. Takes all kinds to make a world.

My Naked Right Titty is the name of my feminist ska band.

So my wife and I text animal noises to each other all the time - most frequently “meow” or some variation. Multiple animal noises usually signal we are especially excited about something.

Every text I send is pretty damn regrettable because it means I’ve signaled to said person that I am assumed free to chat away then get stuck in a conversation I never wanted to have in the first place.

None because I do my best and most regrettably unforced errors in person thank you very much.

williams sonoma or NOTHING. yo when’s that coming out though, seriously?

No disrespect to the writer, but I miss Lindy West writing about Goop.

I know someone who is miiiiiighty interested