Just to say, I don’t think P. Wilson is one such attractive man given how comfortable he is playing villainous creeps.

Everyone knows pretty ladies love compliments. It’s sexless terrorist bitches who don’t.

Nope. I had an ex stalking me, after he had physically assaulted me, and was arrested and I had a restraining order against him. Every time I reported something else he did (leaving notes by my car, sending messages online, etc) they would put it in the file and basically shrug at me.

Hey, do you suppose if either Mandy Moore or Gwyneth Paltrow is physically assaulted or murdered by these stalkers, we’ll have definite evidence that the stalkers were, in fact, stalking them? I bet millions of women file fake stalking claims all the fucking time, honestly. It’s right up there with false rape…

Nevermind being stalked when you’re not famous... the cops are even less likely to take you seriously.

So the precedent for the rest of us who get stalked and don’t have indefatiguable legal and financial resources is... oh right, that the American legal system couldn’t give a fuck. Why don’t they just stamp “inferior rights” on females’ birth certificates or something?

I wonder if that’s also about the men being far more gunners and speaking up in class to demonstrate their intelligence. Like, in my 1L class the person who ended up winning the Best Brief award during the moot court competition was a woman who just never spoke up, so we really didn’t have much of an opportunity to…

I’m in the midst of completeing a doctorate (full funding, federal scholarships, all of the things.) and the same applies. I talk about this with colleagues (profs - even full profs!, postdocs, fellow grad students) and no matter how excellent our scholarship, men of all stripes (regardless of level of education or…

OMG this! My threshold for contributing to class is that I thoroughly understand the material AND have something substantial AND novel to add. With guys, they seem to believe they’re blessing the proceedings with the sound of their inane, uninformed fucking voices.

i’m sure these aren’t the same guys who talk over female colleagues 5 years later.

It’s a lot of ego. And god forbid a woman take an interest in something like family law. I got a verbal pat on the head every time someone discovered that my biggest ambition wasn’t to be partner in a huge corporate law office.

After TAing more than a dozen classes, I wish I could say I was even a little bit surprised by this. Moderately prepared male students speak up more than the highest-achieving female students, and then other students assume they must know what they’re talking about or they wouldn’t volunteer so much. Exceptions…

This applies 1000% in law school. I even got what we call “book awards” for having the highest grade in both of our writing classes, and I was still mansplained to every time we had a study group.

Yeah, to me that detail is important. It shows she was confident enough in the situation to say no, and he was respectful enough to accept it. That’s not something that can be said about every groupie/rock star encounter, you know?

I appreciate your willingness to write a story that reflects deep ambivalence.

This reminds me of a discussion the lady and I had about Michael Jackson. She asked me,"Michael Jackson:Pop megastar or pedophile?!" To which I responded ,"Both, they aren't mutually exclusive."

I cringed when I saw the headline. I was prepared for this to be a “Your Fave is Problematic”-style takedown of Bowie, and I honestly wasn’t sure I wanted to read it. I clicked anyhow and was pleasantly surprised.

I think part of what makes these conversations so difficult is that we can’t ever hold them in a truly safe space. We can’t have a real conversation about the grey areas in sexuality without some creep jumping in to be like, “Exactly, it’s complicated, that’s why I’m not a rapist.” We feel pressure to be like “CONSENT…

I’d just like to say that my husband is a professor and when he surveyed his classes about what they knew about David Bowie post his passing, at least one entire class had never even heard of him.

As a rock musician, I see and hear people defend this behavior all the time. A lot of people’s favorite musicians were boning children, and nobody likes to say how fucked up it was. Look at Steven Tyler! People are still shocked when I tell them the crazy shit he did. You’d think everyone would know by now, but they’d…