You really think you're important don't you. No one gives a fuck, you're not 'letting her get away with' anything because you actually don't matter at all and can't 'let' someone do anything. Get lost.

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i think you're quite kind in your appraisal of people (i mean that in a complimentary way, not snark). standards change over time, that's probably very true. young people are vulnerable in particular because of their lack of experience, like you said, which is why i think we can help by demonstrating positive…

porn shapes people's ideas in the same way that any other cultural medium does. it's not going to have an identical impact on everyone, but it will have some impact nonetheless. ideas about beauty, sexual techniques, language around sex, etc. will be influenced by porn for those who watch it. also i will point out…

rough is obvi not always rape, but rough is also used as a code that sometimes means rape. calm yourself. stop basing 100 percent of your info from fucking xhamster.

well you might see it that way but that's not how it bears out in reality- people experiment and click random vid and try new things when they are still learning about their sexuality, not everyone has a clear idea of what turns them on and many are on a path of discovery. people also get bored easily and move to more…

i want to vom anytime someone says "women aren't as visual as men", like, come on, no, that's just not true, it's just an excuse for men to not even try.

exactly, the surrendering control thing is very appealing to a lot of women as well. esp. because sex for women is often so performative, all about getting the dude off. knowing that you don't have to do all the work and can lose control is an aspect of the "rape" fantasy. But yeah, a "rape" fantasy is miles apart…

seems a little defensive don't they???

um most of the people commenting here about porn HAVE seen porn and visited sites? i've been looking at porn sites since the beginning of the internet.

source?? no idea where you are getting this from, because I've seen stats that prove that men do fantasize about rape, in fact lots of porn aimed at men highlights female resistance and discomfort ??

yes, that is both sad and enraging. i think it often comes from a place of insecurity. it's a defensive maneuver- if i don't see them as people, I won't care when they reject me etc etc. Maybe I am too optimistic...

I totally agree with you. the attitude some ppl have to sex ed is quite disturbing :/ I have family member that basically close their eyes and put hands over their ears when they think of their kids having sex... it's quite worrying. you have to be realistic and proactive and positive.

mm, yea, but i'm sure most "rape" fantasies are about being so desirable that a man can't help himself, so they're really about a person's self-image and ideas about desirability than about the actual pain, fear, trauma, etc. of being raped. lots of women like that idea, but it's actually impossible to want to be…

I'm sure it doesn't make everyone a rapist. On some level I can understand the catharsis. tmi, but for along time I could only get off to thoughts about similar acts that occurred to me during my rape. I hated it, but my mind would wander there all of the time. I got past it after consciously learning to see sex for…

Sex ed is a complete mess everywhere, boy I wish I could get my hands on the programs and fill kids minds with beautiful truths instead of terrifying lies

ooh I've seen the stuff you're talking about! the fact that rape happens so often shows me it's not just "fantasy" as well, I can't with ppl who want to pretend it's all make believe. it is clearly, emphatically, not simply fantasy, even cartoons.

I think men are often greatly underestimated in their ability to be feeling, thinking, loving and wonderfully amazing people. I'm glad that many men are able to disregard the expectation of them to see women only as sex objects, and I am sad for the ones who feel that there is no other way. male desire can be…

Bless you Carl Djerassi, you changed my life xx

Mm-hmm, I hear that.