I think it takes some amount of unlearning for men to get over their initial pornified education. It's like deprogramming a confused robot that's become shit at sex.

I don't care if people want to experience pain during sex, but I don't understand the joy of watching someone engage in apparently non-consensual acts. I think play and fun and pleasure (even if the pleasure comes from pain) should be emphasised because if not, it's a very dark place that can lead to a very skewed…

Well, there's so much porn out there, and I've seen them often enough that I am confident that it's popular enough to have a wide audience. I'm glad to hear that the one you saw got a negative response, that's encouraging to me.

lbr though, porn isn't just "fulfilling a male fantasy", it creates and shapes and informs male fantasies, esp. for younger men who discovered porn before they ever saw a woman naked IRL. That's what I find more disturbing, it's one thing to have a fantasy that already existed fulfilled but I think porn can be…

Why do Americans think Canada is somehow above this sort of thing? It never has been, it's culturally very similar to America in terms of racist and sexist attitudes, the government in power at the moment is conservative asswipes and there are pockets of complete redneck backwards assholes all over the country.

Yeah I was confused as well...... Maybe its a strange coincidence and we both found the wrong guy

Is his FB cover photo of a yeti and a weird tentacle monster?

I don't, but I would also like to know since I suffer from anxiety of all types and major depression but am not currently coping too well...

Losing a dog is so hard. Probably the worst pain I ever experienced. That bond is irreplaceable and special. Mourn as long as you need to, it took me a long time. Sometimes I still cry over him, and it's been over 3 years and I have a new (amazing) puppydog.

That's sad to hear. My only hope is that as child care becomes more equal and people get used to seeing it, men like you will feel more comfortable and be more accepted. :) Personally I love seeing a dad with his kids, anywhere. I don't want kids but there is some sort of programmed biological response that makes me…

Not crazy, but I think maybe as time goes on the jealousy will wane, especially if you're able to observe their interaction and see that it's platonic? That works for me anyway.

That's really rough. I'm sorry that you're experiencing this. I hope somehow you find a balance that works for you and I hope your partner is supportive and understanding of the stress you're under.

Dog socialisation can be so challenging. I have a dog who was incredibly shy/scared/nervous/insecure, around dogs and people at first, but then mostly only around people. What worked was plowing him with treats literally anytime he looked at a person, and if a person was chatting with us, we gave him lots and lots of…

What a good point. People like to think statistics are inherently meaningful/reflect reality.

To some extent there is value of having allies in a position of power/privilege who have an audience that for self-explanatory reasons a POC would not have (i.e. racist/ignorant white people). I think it lessens the ability to but your blinders on and pretend it is 'their problem'. It is a real challenge to get…

It must be frustrating for POC to read these kinds of tweets.
On the other hand, white people need to teach other white people that they have unearned privileges and that their trust in police officers is probably based on a privileged point of view and history of positive experiences. I think it's very important for…

Yes, she should get the fuck over it like the rest of us do.

Wow. I am legit horrified and it takes a lot. Poor woman. Imagine having a kid, raising it... and then... uggggggggggggh.

I sleep with a large knife under a pillow when he's gone... and barricade my bedroom door, back door and front door with various things.

i'm bad...
a dull cry-"o spinny tits!"