Hm... I assume you’re looking to buy in the north of england? Because there’s no way in hell one person of 29 can get a deposit in the SE unless they’re in finance. Also, are you thinking he’ll be a house husband? Sounds like the best plan but worth checking he’s willing (and hasn’t got some weird macho thing waiting…

I’m pretty sure your partner would understand that you were an 18 year old who was taken advantage of. It’s not like you went and blew the money on a porche. So chin up!

I think you are sweet but a little naive. Love is not a magical potion that solves everything. It’s a chemical high which is enjoyable, but designed to help us procreate. if you want the tall-order dream of being with one person for life, that’s when you need to harness your brain. Someone feckless with bad debt will…

Do you really have to pick on people through the internet? When someone makes themselves vulnerable it deserves a little respect.

Make him pick a lucrative specialty, like plastics. People assume that once you’re a doc, the money just starts flowing but it doesn’t. You have to pick a specialty and go for it with everything you’ve got. I’ve seen people just piss about in the junior ranks and train and retrain so they never get the big bucks.

Amen to THAT a million times!!!!!! Why should we have to clean up after other people’s shitty mistakes? If someone isn’t on the same page financially, forget it. I might be in a relationship with someone like that but I sure as hel wouldn’t marry them.

Hell would freeze over before I married someone with feckless debt. Debt incurred trying to get an education or on the property ladder is ‘good debt’, so that’s fine. But any other kind? Hell no. I recently broke up with a guy for many reasons, but the foremost one was he’d got debt on credit cards from going on…

Yeah. That’s because they’re gagging for a shagging.

Er, what on earth is wrong with white on white skin? My sister is a pale blonde and she looks stunning in white.

I really don’t think alpha’s were just ‘born that way’. It takes a very nurturing uprbringing with lots of self-esteem boosts and enough money. Think of a kid growing up abused in a trailer park - is he really going to feel like an alpha? Look at the self-loathing in eminem’s lyrics (a man who is obviously intelligent…

So what? She should’ve gone for it. If they’re not first cousins it’s fine.

Interesting, but people have always been more mobile and intermixed more than we think. Even in neolithic times in England there would be large summer gatherings of different clans and tribes, designed I’m sure to give people a chance to invigorate the breeding stock.

I wouldn’t say it’s ‘wrong’. As long as they are not first cousins. Most of the early icelandic population married second cousins, and the odd thing is that these marriages are more biologically successful (i.e. more children produced) than any other type of marriage. Almost like it was meant to be!

Ahhh, bless you Yanks and you’re adorable ideas!! To make a proper English cup of tea you really don’t need all that gadgetry. A china teapot (pref. wedgewood), a proper kettle, good loose-leaf tea (Darjeeling is heavenly) and that’s it. A teaspoon of leaves per person, and one for the pot. Make sure the water is…

Ahhh, bless you Yanks and you’re adorable ideas!! To make a proper English cup of tea you really don’t need all that…

This article doesn’t give anything specific, so it’s worse than useless. The end.

Well, he’s right. Americans will never vote for a fattie. Nor will they vote for someone under 6 foot or someone aesthetically unappealing. C’mon Jeb, lose the glasses too. Hilary did.

That’s true, but you would be entitled to half of his assets. So you would have to move somewhere else, but you wouldn’t be financially compromised/prospect of alimony etc. Maybe you are young so it didn’t matter, but a woman with children who might have given up her career for them or at least taken a pay cut would…

Yes, it is more of a headache to end, but I think men think more carefully about ending a marriage bc they don’t want the headache either. And being married does change the dynamic (if you both invest the idea of it, of course).

Oh lord. He sounds like such a dick. Have you tried couples therapy?

You’ve said it. I just broke up with a lovable loser who, although I adored him, left me sad and exhausted all the time. he had so much baggage. I reminded myself that the right partner will make me feel energised and real, not sad and fake.