“Usually unfair?” I vehemently disagree. And I missed the part where I said white people are the only people weighting their feelings above those of others. Just because you only think at the level of individuals and their personal feelings doesn’t mean everyone else limits things to that. I sincerely doubt you’ve got…

That’s not what this person said, though—that antisemitism isn’t alive and thriving.

Anyone who thinks dictionary definitions are the only thing that matters in intelligent and nuanced discussions of social phenomena is a moron, and nobody gets called a racist simply for using the word black.

“Bothered by” and “see as equally damaging to slurs that have been and continue to be used to legitimately oppress people” aren’t the same thing, but methinks you’re ignoring that on purpose.

Must just be a coincidence that only specific groups of people are ever the ones who have to be willing or unwilling the first place.

I think this might be helpful for some, but not for everybody, because it’s just not always true. Everyone struggles at some point with something, but sometimes there ARE people who have it easier/are doing better/aren’t struggling as much at a particular time. Telling people—especially people who might be struggling…

But you don’t have to “forgive” to not be holding onto hatred for a person who has wronged you. You don’t have to do anything toward or about that person, necessarily.

Yes. No better proof of this than how committed we are to telling others they should forgive/need to forgive to move on, etc.