Her husband has been on the opposite side of the lawsuit. His sperm will not be used to fertilize the eggs, grandma plans to use a sperm donor.

The widower doesn’t want any part of it, and his sperm will not be used to fertilize the eggs.

Based on interactions with my own mother, I’m guessing the conversation went something like this: “do you want to have your eggs implanted in my uterus after you die?”

I think few people would take any issue with a healthy woman being surrogate for their (living) daughter if the latter were unable to carry a child to term. The story above is really not the same thing.

Oy. Ok. Right.

I know someone who was a surrogate mother for her daughter, so yeah, the biology part isn’t that squicky to me...

They want to use donor sperm, which for some reason makes it even weirder I think.

“And that, kids, is how I met your grandmother.”

It’s just eggs, and they want to use donor sperm. I’m sorry, but a 60 year old woman carrying a baby made from the eggs of her dead daughter and the sperm of a fucking stranger, is weird as hell.

The link states they want to use donor sperm. But for a moment I was like “well, the grand fath-OH GOD” so I followed the link to confirm this wouldn’t end up being some special level of creepy sciencey incest.

Honestly this terrifies me. Stuff like this is why I keep trying to get my abusive, narcissistic mother removed from ever having any control over my legal and medical decisions in an emergency.

I’m childfree for a ton of reasons and my mom is obsessed with the idea of grandchildren and given half a chance she’d go to…

Seriously, just let go. You are not owed grandchildren. Please don’t give birth to children & raise them & have them call you grandma because it is what you want to believe it is what your dead daughter wanted.

I don’t think the grandmother carrying the child is THAT weird, in and of itself. I am concerned about WHY she wants to have this child. Is the child going to always feel like a “replacement” for the deceased mom?

I’ll never understand the drive some people have to ABSOLUTELY HAVE grandchildren. Is this what her daughter would have wanted? To not even have the experience of having her own kids and then her 60-year-old mom raising an infant?

Oh how lovely. So when this kid is a teenager, Nana-mom is going to be in her 70s. Perfect.

Brothers and sisters I have naught (er) but this woman’s mother is my mother’s daughter.

... hey, Mom, long time no talk. So, uh, in case you ever thought of bearing my child posthumously... don’t, please. Thanks! Love you!

I actually don’t think there’s anything inherently wrong with a woman carrying her own grandchild, but when grief gets involved I’m immediately wary of mom/grandmom’s motives and psychology. Is she just trying to have a do-over daughter because the first one died? Does she only want to have a kid, who she will then…

This is so bizarre. I’m of two minds: