Brits, especially men, use vocal fry. Many cultures do! It’s hardly an American phenomenon.

Do you not understand how pointless, sexist criticism of women’s voices (when men are in actuality just as guilty of the same vocal tics) has a real-world impact?

Leave it to Naomi to end up being part of the problem. In Terri Gross’s recent conversation with a vocal coach and a linguist, the latter rightly pointed out that posh English men have been frying the fuck out of their words forever and no one seems to mind. First time that occurred to me.

Men do it too — it’s just their voices are less policed.

Huh, it’s almost like code-switching is an actual phenomenon. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Code-swit…

Plenty of coaches in the NFL have never played the position they coach. Mike McCarthy coached QBs but was a TE at an NAIA school and nothing more. Joe Philbin played 1 season of college ball (division III). She also played 14 years pro ball, even if that was in a women’s league. She’s got more actual playing…

THIS. The NYT is constantly doing these sorts of trend pieces, and it is detrimental. 10 or 15 years ago they did one on the “opt out revolution”. The problem with these articles is that they present it as a sort of aspirational ideal and/or trend. Even though it’s only relevant for a tiny percentage of people, it…

“...that help isn’t coming any time soon from their government.”

I hate that they call it a career “pause.” Let’s call it what it is - if you genuinely want high-power career and want to be climbing that ladder all the way up to the c-suite, leaving your job/going to a more “flexible” situation for a few years is a career derailment. And one that very few women recover from, in…

Yeah, this is only possible for married couples where one spouse is bringing in enough buckaroos to allow for the other to stay home with said family. Which... is not a large part of the population these days.

Unfortunately, a standard 9-5 job is no longer standard. I work 9-5 five days a week, and I feel like a slacker sometimes. It’s the norm for young people to work as late 8 or 9pm on the reg. Maybe you don’t HAVE to stay that late, technically, but if you want to do well and advance, you have to stay that late.

In a world where only working 9 to 5 is considered “lazy”, perhaps even thievery of some kind.

Funny how it started being considered a “soft” science when the percentage of women in it went up.

It takes literally one line - and will save the other party weeks, months of anxiety of WHAT THE FUCK DID I DO??

Yep, I completely understand this. Because being ghosted makes people CRAZY. Really. Even the normally sane.

people who ghost deserve to actually die and come back as mute ectoplasmic entities that cannot communicate with their friends or loved ones.

I’ve been ghosted by a very close friend before and it fucking burnt. I was friends with her for close to 10 years and was with her through a very difficult time in her life, and once she was through it that was it. She just disappeared.

Agreed. Honestly, ghosting can be extremely manipulative because you pretty much ensure that person will continue to think about you/try to contact you for a long time to come. It’s basic psychology, folks.

Exactly. Is it harder being a cheater or being cheated on? I despise people who elevate their own bad behavior into a personal affliction.

Many of those who have ghosted are contrite, citing their own fear, insecurity and immaturity