I don’t disagree with that, and I don’t think I said I do. What I did say was that, because of that power differential, nobody can actually change this besides men themselves. So, men need to do more than their fair share of the complimenting/praising or whatever, and men who care about righting this need to be the…

It’s not just about individual praise for women, though. I think that’s what you’re not getting. You’re talking about this like it’s an issue exclusively of spouses/families not appreciating the work women do, when actually it’s much deeper and more complicated than that. There are intense normative/societal…

As long as you’re also advocating women (and smart men) refusing not to resent the hell out of having to do it, and recognize that adults expecting that kind of (nonreciprocal, of course) emotional labor from other people is deplorable, I guess that’s fine.

I get your point that maybe praising it might incentivize others to start doing it too, thereby being better for everyone in the long run.

The US just doesn’t care about people.

There are plenty of people on Pinterest who don’t use it in the way this article is pokes fun at. And yes, people buy the pink jerseys. That doesn’t make it not offensive that there are people who think that’s the only way to reach the mythical monolith that is womenfolk who either don’t already love sports or only…

But the women who aren’t already fans aren’t necessarily any more likely to be bimbos who love Pinterest and need things to come in pink than any other person who currently doesn’t like football.

These are...not very original, I don’t think.

No, you’re questioning it, presumably in the company of other people who have declared themselves experts on something they’ve failed to pay attention to/actually learn about.

Only semi-related, but I always wonder about this in terms of work and the fact that I cannot function well in the afternoon hours, no matter what I do. I mean, obviously I do it, but I am so much less productive, no matter what I eat, when I exercise, whether I’ve been up since 4am or 9am, whatever.

I used to work at a literary agency, and I sighed deeply throughout your post. You don’t know what you’re talking about, and you don’t know as much about the publishing industry as you think you do. Of course, from someone who thinks it’s possible to “overstate” structural sexism, it isn’t a surprise that you think…

Also, as someone who used to be one of those women in publishing, where does he think the dudes are? They’re in the high up positions, often making the final call on what books their (often, yes, female) editors bid on. They’re the ones making the overall budget determinations that impact strategy for the year. And…

An example of something that we also wish you could pick up on, rather than having to ask: the actual meaning of the post you are replying to.

I’m sure plenty of people who do it are like your friend, but go into any coffee/bagel shop in Manhattan on a workday morning and take a look around at who is making it impossible for normal people to expediently acquire coffee ;) Perhaps the scooped out bagel is an equal opportunity food abomination, but a…

Says the person who thinks their own opinion is so important as to warrant ALL CAPS because “wahhhh kids these days MY FEELINGS buzzwords participation trophies LOLOLOL please someone make them go away because I’m important.”

That lack of representation in the media is precisely the evidence you’re looking for, actually, and you’re not imagining it/just not looking in the right places. Issues that disproportionately impact black women get a tiny fraction of the attention that issues that concern white women get, but ALSO a tiny fraction of…

I think you’re having some trouble with intersectionality here. Try thinking of it like this:

You’ve heard them talk like that, you just didn’t register them as “sounding like that” because many of the negative associations we have with it are deeply gendered.

“Everyone’s opinion is relevant.” No, it isn’t. Everyone can state their opinion if they choose to, but everyone’s opinion is not equally relevant, equally intelligent, equally important to a particular conversation, etc.

Dude, the scooped out bagel is the domain of retired sorority girls in Tory Burch flats, not hipsters. Ask me how I know (spoiler alert: bagel day at my office is a hellscape).