The point in my life where I feel so old I have absolutely no idea who this is someone change my bedpan please.

Elle King is his daughter...

Taylor Swift winning album of the year is some serious bullshit. Kendrick Lamar and Alabama Shakes were far more deserving. I guess we couldn’t go one awards season without having America’s favorite little white princess playing the underdog victim card. GAAAH I can’t stand her.

Exactly. I was a part of that ridiculous comment thread (I’m just seeing this one) and septembergirl didn’t say that. She’s mischaracterizing the statement. Not to mention ladyology is still a student. I’m an attorney and literally cannot imagine not speaking with my colleagues about their lives, spouses, kids,…

You know, you keep saying this advice is “effective,” but you are repeating it secondhand from your mom, who was raising children in a different era — treating anecdote and opinion as time-tested fact. My mother’s experience (in the same era!) is no less true or valid than that of yours; my mother’s advice could not…

I’m a single mom to a very young child. I already have a nanny that works 50+ hour weeks, and friends that are maxxed out filling in for me beyond that so I can do basic things like get haircuts and therapy appointments. I work a demanding full-time job in finance. When the tragedy occurred that granted me single mom…

When the truth comes out they’re just going to expect all mothers to work like that. So it’s toughening expectations, not loosening them. I agree that we need to show working mothers are no different than working fathers. Unfortunately, we can’t start doing that until men pull their fair equal share at home with child…

So was mine. When she was pregnant with her youngest, she worked in an environment that was literally almost completely male, so she pretty much wrote the policy for how to handle mat leave, prescribed bed rest, etc. She worked 70 hour weeks through my childhood and, alongside my highly active co-parent of a dad, was…

Yes, that time was different, sure.

You have no idea what you will or will not do regarding children you do not have.

Wow. Why are you equating mentioning your children in the workplace with not being professional? And she never said that she needs to talk about her kids constantly, just that she doesn’t think it’s fair that she should basically pretend to be childless in order to be taken seriously.

How does this help chip at the glass ceiling? Doesn’t it merely continue the status quo? If women have to continually pretend they don’t have kids in order to get ahead then all women will always have to pretend they don’t have kids.

“A mom responded that she loves her children so much that she could never not mention them constantly. (Okay, dude; hope we never share a lunch break, because you sound dull.)“

It’s ridiculous. I would be pissed if random people started demanding I change my expression to please them. That is even without the worry that a possible confrontation with some random guy presents to most women.

Which is not insulting, it’s a character in a romance novel. No one yells out to you to smile either.

1. have resting bitch face

Well, it’s more than just that. Most girls aren’t outright told that females can’t or don’t do X profession. But there’s all sorts of negative reinforcement at every level, and that’s just what I’ve observed. Instead of complimenting a girl based on her merits or her personality, she’ll get told how pretty she is.…

Yes. And if you have no problem fucking a person who is not enthusiastically consenting, there’s something wrong with you and you should seek therapy.

Yeah, because a black eye is soooo appealing, right? A man is bigger and stronger than me and could literally murder me with his bare fucking hands and you want me to what? Hit him? Pull some ninja bullshit out of thin air? If a man can understand why he would yield to another man who had a weapon, why can't he…

And fuck you.