Thing is obviously me and all our cousins were brought up Catholic and we were expected to sit still and behave in church, no toys, from 4 or 5 onwards and we did. It’s definitely possible.

I think it is important to distinguish between stuff that puts someone else out or hurts their feelings and stuff that might not be to our taste but isn’t hurting anyone. One is consideration which is the essence of true good manners and the other is just snobbery.

The awkward thing at my sister’s wedding was that everyone knew beforehand there was going to be one specific pair of under-5s who were going to be out of control and they were.

“My God, the place will be brimming with sex workers!”

I’m not one of them but I know a lot of adults who put themselves in situations they are unhappy with rather than endure the terror of someone being mildly pissed off with them or talking shit about them to a mutual friend. But all that happens behind one’s back whereas a crap evening takes hours and hours and…

I encounter this at work a lot.

That kind of thing doesn’t work in my opinion. One of my friends held her wedding at a very expensive hotel so some of her friends were asked without their partners. Most of them didn’t end up going at all because they felt like she was disrespecting their relationships.

I know too many people who won’t tell their kid off and then enforce a boundary when the kid keeps misbehaving. One person of my acquaintance has to feed his kid sweets to get him to go to school without having a tantrum. It seems incredibly sadistic to give a 6 year old a ton of sugar at 8am in the morning and then…

Yep bang on. My friend didn’t get her dog until after age 30 but she cannot comprehend why I don’t enjoy being pawed by a nervy and sharp clawed whippet ;-)

I think this sort of thing comes down to what a person’s family does and they just see that as being the normal thing.

In fairness that might be how his family carries on. My family threw very boozy parties and we kids were just sort of parked in a corner with the oldest kid present becoming de facto babysitter.

I agree with SW here, this needs a phone call. “I’m really sorry but this party isn’t going to be suitable for two very young children. I have a ton of adults planning on getting wasted and absolutely nothing for them to do.”

Ana gave her the tape. And also abusing the trust of one of your oldest friends by nearly sleeping with their teenage daughter is morally wrong, even if technically legal in that state. But there’s a whole host of other stuff like walking Sarah-Lynn off the edge by picking her for a party buddy and nearly strangling…

“She really violated Bojack this season with no excuse other than her horrible sense of self righteousness.”

Yeah it was awful when she kept using drink and drugs despite all the evidence and then strangl-oh wait.........

A traumatic experience or experiences with something doesn’t mean you want to write it off forever. The fact TENSE is in therapy for this suggests they see it as a problem they want to fix.

“TENSE first needs to ask whether she really wants sex, or just a room mate.”

TENSE, that is above Dan’s pay grade.

And giant All-Sorts! ;-)

This is pretty weak, WHCA.